Thankyou for your replies, he came in @ 3am climbed into bed then got up for work @7am. Back home now and sparko on the sofa. Im so sad its come to this. I know I need to ask him to leave but jeeze its hard. My 6 year old idolises him. Previously he wanted the help…now he says he wants us, says he doesnt want the coke but doesnt want to stop drinking and seeing his ‘friends’ for as long as he has this attitude theres no hope. I just need to be strong…Im fed up of being the strong one. I cry behind closed doors..when im out running, in bed etc…kids just think its normal that dads not here. It fustrates me that they think he is just out working….im trying to hold it together but im struggling…