[anon0801]

Hi Liberty. Thanks for your reply.

Made me cry haha. I have accepted that it’s the drugs that’s made him this way because I remember how he was before drugs and thats why I cant seem to let go..

I’m just taking time to decide now if I can continue a life like this or it’s best to go our separate ways. The drugs itself I can handle, it’s the lies I cant and of course now theres no trust. We would have a lot to work out if I did take him back.. it’s not going to be an easy ride!

Thanks for sharing your story, it gives me some hope that couples can get through it.

My kids are okay, 2 year old doesnt have a clue what’s going on but my 5 year old took it all pretty bad and would cry for her daddy most nights. Shes getting better now though now that hes been coming to see them consistently and not letting them down.

It’s so horrible to watch someone you know who is a good dad/partner slip away xx

[anon0801]

Hi, thanks for the reply and for sharing your story.

Well done for getting this far.

Yeah when he first sat me down and told me about the problem he was relieved that he didnt have to lie anymore and it was like a weight was lifted. But then like I said I dont really think he was ready to stop then because the lies etc just got worse..

Hes since lost his job, his van, me the kids and a lot of other family members too and it seems to be only now that hes willing to change his ways himself.

It’s good to hear that your family and friends say they have you back to your old self. I hope time will tell and my partner slowly returns to who he was too.

[anon0801]

Hi. Thanks for the reply.

Yeah hes a drinker too so it started off as a party drug sort of thing then he stopped going out because that was causing problems but started taking it at work etc then. It’s been a daily issue for about a year or so now (I only found this out in November).

The wedding has been cancelled because were obviously not in the right place for marriage right now. So that’s not a worry.

Me and the kids are fine I’ve been focusing on them and myself since he left but I still love him of course and I suppose what I’m trying to figure out is if I can handle a life like this.. if it will get easier or if it’s going to be a constant problem.

Hes seeking help for it all now and like I said has been clean.. hes doing it off his own back and not just to win is back so i am hopeful but i just dont know much about drugs and how the addiction changes them. Will he be able to be the person I met again or has he changed for good 🙁

Hes lied so much over the last year and it scares me x

[anon0801]

I’m sorry to hear all of that.

Luckily for me my partner was never unfaithful when we were together. It was after I kicked him out and he had thought he lost everything that he ended up with someone else.. but he claims it didnt mean anything. I’m still hurt tho because while I was sat at home hoping he would sort himself out he was doing the exact opposite.

I do believe its the drugs that’s causing them to be this way but it doesnt make it any easier for us does it.

I hope your story ends well x

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