[anonymous23]

I’m so sorry to anyone else going through this.

About 5 months ago my partner came home with a hole in his nose. I’d been with him for 3 years and had no idea he was taking it when he was with me. He seemed depressed at times and slept a lot. He also seemed to have problems connecting with his son and said there was times when he questioned if he loved him (I’m not sure if this is an addict thing)

When I 1st started going out with him he was thousands in debt despite being on a good wage so the signs were there looking back.

He denied he even had a hole in his nose to begin with when you could see it clearly. He then accepted it was there and said it must have been a nasal spray he’d been taking that did it. He’s still denying even now that’s what it was.

He simply up and left and didn’t try to fight for the relationship at all. When I contacted him he told me that I’d accused him of something he would never do and that the relationship hadn’t been working for a long time and he’d just continued trying to make it work and that he’d lost that feeling for me and didn’t know what love was.

We were supposed to be buying a house together and he’d started transferring large sums of money to a friend which was supposed to be his half of the deposit.

I like many of you feel the same way this Xmas completely heartbroken

[anonymous23]

So Ive finally text him today. He’s said he misses me but wants to be on his own. He’s said how sorry he is for hurting me but doesn’t know what he feels anymore. He’s said he feels nothing. Someone close to him died and he felt nothing. He’s said he doesn’t know what love is when I told him I still loved him.

He’s said he’s better off on his own and when ive asked why he feels this way he’s said he can’t explain as he doesn’t know himself. He’s said he doesn’t know his own feelings. He’s said it stopped working for him and he was awful to me. He’s said he’s just lost that feeling and that it’s not me and that it’s happened in every relationship he’s been in and he can’t commit because of it. He just kept saying he wanted to be on his own.

I’m heartbroken

[anonymous23]

That’s how I feel too. I’ve tried reaching out to his family for help and didn’t get very far. I’ve had the same reaction which is saying nothing seems untoward.

It’s been 7 weeks for me now and I’ve heard nothing from him. It’s just insane! A lot of people have said I won’t hear anything while he is still using which he will be with the money he inherited. He was up to his eyes in debt when I 1st met him as well

[anonymous23]

It’s been a huge shock to the system!

How is the acting like they don’t care a typical addict trait? Is it because they do drugs to numb it all? I just don’t understand any of it

[anonymous23]

Thank you so much for your reply.

You’re right none of it does make sense!

I’ve contacted his dad today (who lives abroad) he has told me he’s been back over to visit and that he’s had a look at his nose and there’s no hole or even scar there!!! Am I losing my mind??! Do parents often lie for their kids to cover it up?

He’s told me he’s going to tell him to contact me and that he is going to be moving back to the UK soon and will keep an eye on him. I just don’t understand all of it

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