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Hi Blossom,
It sounds like your son’s and your situation is similar to ours. I honestly don’t know the answer in terms of getting him to stop as I have tried so much to get help and it’s proved to be a tough journey. I have paid for a private substance misuse therapist who he will engage with when he wants to (that’s their working arrangement) but although he shows more insight and says occasionally that he doesn’t want his life to be like this, his behaviours haven’t really changed. He hasn’t committed to work or college since leaving school, although he has been given extra opportunities to commit to college (extensions, extra support etc) these were not successful. Since leaving college he has made 3/6 volunteering sessions which is again some small progress. However, he has had several aggressive outburst, one leading to us calling the police because we honestly did not know what else to do. Since spending the night in custody he has talked more about change and his need for it and has, with initial encouragement to make the first phone call, engaged in harm reduction work. He has been positively validated for his engagement since then but currently there is no change in drug use behaviour and a lot of resentment because we called the police. I guess the most we can do is validate positive behaviour and support reassurance when they’re low. My son has ADHD and is suspected to be on the spectrum too. People with these conditions are more likely to turn to drugs to self-medicate. Does your soon use anything else? I was devastated to learn that mine had tried crack, ketamine, Coke, MDMA. It’s so worrying. Here for you.
Hello both,
Just received email notification of a response to this. My son has all the same stuff going on. How are you both coping? He is 19 years old and it’s a daily struggle.
Hi Linda,
Are things any better now? How is your son? How are you? My situation with my 18 y/o us almost identical both in drugs of choice, music interests and aggression and violence. It’s heartbreaking.