Hello
We are in a similar position. Our adult son has a problem with alcohol and addiction.He clearly needs help but continually refuses to accept help
We did get him to rehab a few years back but he didnt like it and left after a few days. We would gladly pay for rehab again for him but he just refuses.
What is so difficult about addiction is that insight seems to go. I can see that all of his problems would be improved by stopping alcohol and substances.
I am not sure what else can be done other than try to support him, harm reduction, self care, avoid enabling etc. Hopefully he will come to a point where he accepts help.
We have thought about asking him to leave the house but hesitate because we worry about him. He has had episodes of low mood before.
Suffice to say it has completely upended our lives. It’s difficult to have anyone around the house. It is very isolating because it’s a topic you dont really want to tell people about. It has been going on for years and it is taking a toll on our health.