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Hi all. Update on my addict. Covid has had a big impact on my situation. I’m ashamed to say I used it -legitimately to distance myself. I was isolating because I am in the older age group with an underlying condition. It broke the dependency a bit and she had to go through the addiction as best she could. The relief was twinned with guilt as every day I was expecting ‘that call’ to say she was dead . She eventually reached out to the drug centre and is on methadone. She is reducing it in stages and wants to be off it by next year. I know there will be hiccups along the way and pray yet again that this is the turnaround she needed. She is taking more responsibility for herself and I truly believe it is because I finally accepted that I could not carry on any more as it was affecting my mental health and life and it was her or me. This addiction has been hers and mine and It has taken 20 years of my life. Today I am stronger and I hope she is too. Time will tell.

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Thank you for your supportive words. She has been offered help numerous times and is at present attending her local Drug and Alcohol centre who also think she has mental problems and they have put her forward to see a psychiatrist but the waiting list is horrendously long. I am not convinced a psychiatrist is the right person to see, she has had no help in that direction in the past, as I said in my first post. She lives in North London

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Hi PinkWings, your story is like a mirror of my own. I have only joined this forum today and posted. I can’t give you any advise but I think you know in your heart as I do, that you did the right thing ‘kicking him out’. My addicts key worker said to me This is HER addiction, not yours, but in a way it is, we live the desperation of it with them. I have put myself in danger many times and reading your story , I’m sure you have too. It’s going to be a hard road for both of us and I’m not totally sure I can stick to it. I have found that the website Drugfam is very good, founded by a mother who lost her son to drugs. The people on the other end of the line have all gone through it. I ring them often when I am going through a crisis, and while it does not solve the issue, just for a few days it helps my resolve to stay strong, so that gives me some peace for a short while. I wish you all the best

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