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Oh my goodness! That’s honestly heartbreaking, I am so so sad and sorry you’re going through this!! Him developing feelings for his colleague seems very impulsive and completely unfair! Is he normally quite impulsive?

What’s the current status of everything? Has he left, or is he just talking of it? I honestly don’t know what to say to make this any easier or better.. I just really hope that you’re okay xxxx

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Directionless… I’m devastated to read this and I cannot imagine the hurt and pain you are feeling. Is this completely out of the blue? Where is he now in his recovery? How unfair 🙁 I’m so sorry!! I’m thinking of you, this site has been an absolute blessing for me and I hope you will find comfort in the stories of others.

I hope you’re okay xx

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Wow! That’s an absolutely awful thing to say, how can he be that mean? My hubby has blamed our marriage for the reasons that we argue but not the marriage for the reason he takes that! I find that unforgettable!! How are you all today? Xxxxx

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I’m so sorry I’m just catching up, I’ve read each and every one of these messages and my heart is so heavy. You are all so intelligent, kind, strong and fantastic mums… I can really tell. I completely agree with the teenager part. It’s soul destroying isn’t it? I hope you’ve all had a pleasant day? As pleasant as can be 🙁

I honestly couldn’t do any of this without you all, life leads us in all directions and I’m certain it has lead us all to this path. As horrific as it is… I finally don’t feel alone. Can’t thank you all enough xxxxx

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You’re doing absolutely everything you can girl ❤️❤️ I’m sorry I can’t offer any other advice… I just wanted to let you know that you are awesome and I’m devastated it’s come to this! Xxxxx

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Hello ladies,

I’m sorry I’ve been quieter than normal, I’m just trying to keep busy.. weekends are always the worst aren’t they.

Razy and Fayzey, I’m so so sorry things are so s..t!! It’s completely unacceptable, I really wish I could offer some help or just stop this from happening. They don’t know how lucky they are and how much of a huge huge mistake they’re making. Stay strong, look after yourself and these babies ❤️❤️ Purpleheart, how are things with you lovely?

I hope you all have a restful Sunday tomorrow, keep on being awesome xxxxxx

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Hello ladies,

I’m so sad to read these posts… it’s absolutely shocking and I totally get what you mean about standing in the way of what he wants purpleheart, I always feel like that. Like why is my whole life wrapped around something that you can’t resist. And I do understand the addiction, I really do but sometimes it’s so hard when I’m so doubtful that he actually wants to change.

What’s the situation with you ladies today? How are things? I’m just planning LOTS… cinema, museums.. everything just to keep him entertained. How bad is that? Our eldest son actually said ‘we do have 6 weeks still off you don’t need to cram everything into the weekends’ little does he know that if I don’t.. we’ll end up being desperate detective vs sneaky husband.

Will it ever get better? I can’t believe o wrote this post 2 years ago asking the same question, only feeling worse. He is trying… but I know it’s only short term so I’m just internally panicking and trying to do everything I can. It’s so fucking hard… together and apart… relapse and in control. The whole thing!!

I’m thinking of you both.. so much this weekend xxx

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I’m sorry I actually don’t know what’s happening ???? it won’t let me send my original message. I shall try again tomorrow, as I have a fear it will load and send about 18 of the same message lol!! night night xxx

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Hello there!! How are you all today? Hubby has had a really low day today, finished work at 2.30 and has slept since.. literally even now. He’s admitted he’s feeling low today and is worried he’ll get ‘Friday-itis’ (that’s what we call it when he has his Friday dip in mood… I know now that it means drug relapse) it’s positive he’s admitted and recognised he’s feeling this way… and I’m appreciative of it.. I’m just selfishly feeling like why can’t I dip? Why can’t I be the one that sleeps all day and gives everything up!!

How is everything with you all today?? Fayzey have you heard anything today??

I heard a really good song today.. I think it fits really well for us all. It’s called goodbye and it’s by mimi Webb. Really powerful!! Xxxxx

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You’re absolutely not alone ❤️

Are you okay?? Xxx

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Hello Razy88,

Welcome to the club that none of us can stand being in. I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this, especially with two such small babies!!

It’s so difficult that he has such a good thing having the space at his sisters (the same as my husband with his family) as it doesn’t really give them the short sharp shock they need. I also understand the ‘nagging’ it’s absolutely vile isn’t it!! I know he’s her brother but she should be giving him a bit of a reality check… telling him to sort his head out for his little family.

I also get the literal ache to be with them (hence why I gave in yet again) it’s absolutely impossible at times and especially for you as I’m sure your hormones are aching for your family unit. It’s absolutely so unfair!!!

I’m really trying to give my hubby a focus ag the minute, He likes to go to the gym so I’m asking him to take me under his wing and help me to get fitter. We both are 100% sure that he has (undiagnosed) ADHD, and always has had struggles. So I’m giving him this focus… probably it will take his mind off things short term… but I’m just going day by day. It’s honestly exhausting and petrifying. It’s all a bit much isn’t it?

I hope that you’re all okay this evening, I’m thinking of you all xxxx

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Thank you, for just getting it! For just knowing. It’s so painful and we both have to want to change.. it’s so much easier said than done isn’t it. I’m going to suggest maybe a forum like this to him, this place has been an absolute god send for me and I feel stronger for it. I think being a part of this group will be a life long process for me as I will always have these thoughts and worries. But last night when he was asleep… deep asleep… he reached out and grabbed me to hug me and said ‘I’m sorry’ it actually broke me a little. I feel sad that he has been taken over by this.

I’m so sorry that you’re having to deal with this fayzey, it’s literally so unfair! Is he still in contact with you? You’re right to be distracted by work.. keep that focus. Do you think he will be smoking it? Is that a new thing for him? It’s all such a mess isn’t it no matter where they are xxxx

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Hello there ladies,

I’m so sorry you’re both having a crappy day!! I can’t believe he didn’t come over fayzey, you’re right.. you can’t do anything.. which absolutely SUCKS!! Are you okay?

Purpleheart, how are you feeling this evening? I’m sorry you’ve had a rubbish few days with arguing 🙁 how are things now?

He came over, saw the kids and we had a chat… it’s like we are internally driven to each other. We both fell to pieces and have decided to make a go again. I’m angry at myself, he’s asleep next to me and I’m like will it change? He’s totally a 0-100 person… so earlier today it was everything I wanted to hear and more. I just want it to be real. My head is absolutely mushed!! Is this the right thing? The kids are so happy.. I am too.. I’m just worried it’s all so short lived. I also darent tell my family and friends ???? they will absolutely think less of me once again for doing it again. They totally don’t get it!! I’m so glad you girls do xxxx

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I haven’t heard anything… I stupidly sent him a ‘I love you’ message on WhatsApp (he’s unblocked me) but then I deleted it when it was left unread for hours on end. It makes me feel like a stalker to my own husband!!

I’m sending positive vibes to you too… I’m really thankful for you and purpleheart, you have both helped more than anyone else has been able to… just by knowing what it’s like.

I’m going to hit the hay too.. I hope you both have a restful sleep and I hope all goes well with him seeing your son tomorrow. Mine is seeing my kiddos tomorrow so I shall update you on that.

Night night xxxx

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