[belle80]

Hi

I posted on this forum nearly 2 1/ 2 years ago, but need some advice.

When I posted back in 2021. At tgat time my husband was dealing with a serious cocaine, alcohol and gambling addiction which he had hidden from me for well over 12 years

It escalated to the point where he owed a significant sum of money to a drug dealers, had accrued massive debts nd he knew he had to tell me and get sober

Without going into war and peace about her behaviour, you can imagine the lying, stealing and gas lightening I put up with, not even to mention the impact on our children

An ultimatum came and he sobered up. He hasn’t drank, took drugs or gambled and I proud he has overcome this, I knew he was ill, I got help, regained control over our finances and made sure out children were not aware of what their dad was up too, how I did this I don’t know, but I wanted to make sure that he didn’t end up killing himself and he became the dad I knew he was, a good one.

However we still carry the financial burden of his addiction, I still have no trust and I am still very much angry and resentful

I have been honest with him that I have tried to hard to make out marriage work, I can’t forgive him, and I no longer wish to be with him

The pain of it still feels like yesterday and there are constant reminders daily

I dont know if I am the only one who has been through this, supported their partner, got them sober but just could not forgive them?

I have read on many websites about how partners should forgive, and move on. But how? After 2 1/2 years, I’ve tried my hardest and I can’t do it anymore

Is this right to be feel this way?

 

[belle80]

Thank you so much.

I’ve never felt so alone and guilty for making the right decision for my children and my sanity

Since my post I have found out it’s far worse than what it thought had been

I just can’t believe he’s lied so much and has been borrowing money from friends and has been taking it in our home, I’m beyond annoyed.

I hope for his sake he gets help and realises what he has lost

Going through the posts on here it is a comfort to see I’m not alone, but so sad at the same time how many people are affected by this.

Addiction ruins so many families

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