[blouise]

Thanks for your reply

I appreciate it

He actually doesn’t ask us for money

He hasn’t asked for a penny since he has been working

And he does give us money to put away for him (so far)

He has never asked his grandparents either

And he is respectful towards them so I don’t think him going there for a few days will be difficult for them

It’s more for myself and him to have some space as we are not communicating well at all

His grandparents live in another town so it think being away from his friends and contacts may help???

I am hoping we can have a discussion later

But feel I’m at the end of my tolerance level and I won’t allow him to fracture all parts of our household

Especially with you her siblings here

Can I ask how old your son is now?

And how is your relationship?

[blouise]

Thank you for your time and comments

I do take some comfort that I’m not completely alone

I feel sad, guilty, angry, frustrated and disappointed all at the same time

My husband is adamant that we can’t tell him to leave out house

(Which I obv don’t want to do)

But I kinda feel like I don’t have a choice as he has no respect for our house or his siblings atm

I am thinking of taking him to stay at his grandparents for a few days and hope that helps

That’s if he will even go

Any tips on how I can communicate better with him would be so helpful

[blouise]

Jaynhissy

Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post

Yes he earns enough money to fund his habit

He works 20 hours a week and earns pretty good money

Up until this point he has given us money to save for him

But now that has stopped which concerns me

As where is all his money going???

He does buy clothes/trainers that are very expensive

But that has dried up too

So now I worry that

1- he is either spending much more money on weed

2- he owes money to people

3- he is involved in something bigger ????

Yes he smokes everyday I believe

I can empathise

My older brother is a weed smoker

He is 40 now and still smoking everyday (Yet manages to hold a good And care for his children) yet he def has some mental health issues as a result

However it is not a life I want for my son

And certainly not in my house where I have a 2 & 13 year old!!

I will not enable that behaviour

It is a clear disrespect or our rules and for us

What I’m worried about is if I ask him to leave….. that he actually will!

I have previously asked him repeatedly to stop smoking weed

Not to bring into our home etc

I feel helpless and lost as to what is the best to do for him

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