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Hi – your story very similar to mine. Our daughter its alcohol, been through all this. I wish I could give you some solid advice but all I can say is I understand especially about the hating part. We have wished our daughter dead so that she and us would be at peace. We lost her a long time ago – at least we could then grieve for her. Hope it helps to know you are not alone x
Hi Rosie, Know how you feel. I tried to get my daughter sectioned (she is a 20 year old alcoholic and substance user). The police told me (this was after she was violent and trashed the house) that you can’t get someone sectioned for alcoholic abuse. We have lurched from crisis to crisis, our lives have been intolerable as she refuses all offers of help. she has just been thrown out of her 3rd rented room and is threatening to harm the landlord. I spend my whole life trying to manage the situation and stop it from escalating. Today I am at breaking point, we have an emergency assessment meeting on Monday to try and get her referred to detox. If that fails me and my husband are selling our house and moving away and cutting our ties with her. My daughter sounds exactly like your son. I think my daughter has a mental health problem but the dr wouldn’t assess her until she had stopped drinking for 3 months! You just end up going round in circles. The sad thing is I’d like to be able to offer you some solutions but being in the same situation myself I know there is very little that can be done as he is an adult. All I can suggest is that you tell him you love him but for your own health and sanity you need some distance from him. If he chooses to get help you will be there for him. I wish you luck Rosie.