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Therapy is good for sure, but I also think sometimes addicts opt for this as a softer option (I know as I did it myself) and wonder if meetings would help. A practical programme of action and structure to help sort things out, somewhere to be and also a support network to take the load off you?
Hey cath I have some, happy to share, conscious you have heard me before
No problem. The reason I asked that was to make sure you have support as this is alit to take on.
Do you think he is receptive to getting help or reaching out?
Hey
Thanks for the post that took guts and deserves a reply.
People assume that alcoholism just affects the alcoholic. They don’t realise the impact it has on the family, and the ripple affect it has outwards to everyone they come into contact with.
From what you have written it doesn’t sound like there is any intention of him being ready to sort himself out or get help. This means that you are going to have to work on yourself and adjusting. It won’t be easy as he is family, how you feel is natural, and you can’t just cut off – at the same time there isn’t much you can do either. It’s so difficult.
Have you ever tried Al anon for support? There will be many people in the same boat as you and this may be a good place to start
Thanks Cath
It’s very difficult to give a defined time line for these things, there are alit of different factors, length of time someone has been taking it, amount taken at a time and genetics to name but a few. Everyone processes drugs differently as well
Some of the things you mention don’t tie in with withdrawal though – having been through opiate withdrawal myself, being lively and eating are the last things you want to do and actually not even possible. I wonder if he still had some and was using – or is that what you suspected?
Typically physical symptoms stopping last 5 days to two weeks maybe longer. Then comes the hard part which is crushing depression, restlessness, anxiety etc. That can be very hard to deal with.
In terms of beating this stuff – I’d suggest NA for support, talking to the GP
Practical stuff includes diet, exercise, meditation, keeping busy at all times, doing away with numbers and other means to buy this junk etc
Sorry for the jumbled reply I have insomnia and can just about see!
I can try to answer other questions
Hey mate
It depends what treatment she is getting in the rehab.
Typically they get people on a 12 step programme and part of that is making amends, so she may come home and do that anyway. However if she doesn’t then yes I would address it – you don’t want things left hanging around unsaid.
It seems to me given when all this started that she is a good person who had something bad happen which started it.
Hey cath
What opiates we talking here?
Hi haven’t been on here for a few days and wanted to check you were still online before replying
Hey bud.
Well done on posting.
Alcohilism, like addiction is a terrible thing – I don’t need to rattle on about it as you are seeing where it leads in full force right now.
It reads to me like your mum needs urgent help. This needs to be professional help too – it can actually be lethal for a chronic alcoholic to suddenly stop drinking, I say this not to scare you but purely for education.
This is a complicated situation as I can see you mention other issues with mental health and medication, in my humble experience those areas are usually linked with the drinking, but best to speculate later and look at right now.
The first thing is to have her reach out to her GP, if she won’t, you may well have to and you will have to be honest about what’s going on and the severity.
Someone to is that far advanced in alcoholism will need a supervised detox. Acrophobia is an awful condition and likely affecting her reaching out for help.
If she is receptive to any of this, and can get medical help, there is a ton of support she can get into – happy to share this with you but thought I’d focus on here and now as it sounds serious
Start with a GP asap.
Hey
Well done. That must have been hard, but, unless someone wants some help there is very little you can do in fact it often ends up enabling them
If you need any support please keep posting
Hey all if I can offer any help or support you are always welcome stay strong
What you are saying, though horrific to experience, is all par for the course. the split personality is something I hear time and time again. Addiction will consume everything that is good in life and you end up in a place where the it thing that matters is where that next hit is coming from and screw everyone else.
The pain of putting it all down and facing the wreckage is immense – many people can’t bring themselves to do it, it’s far easier to use and blot everything out. Eventually though it catches up – it gets everyone.
I hope someone can get through to him, it’s an awful affliction for him and the family too. If he is ready for help I can always suggest some things to get started
Keep posting. I hope he is ok
Hmmm.
Trust your instincts here. That definitely isn’t right regardless.
Have you found anything else ?
Honestly the filling agents alone in those tablets are poison taken in that quantity
Hi Needsleep
Addiction loves nothing more than to be kept a secret. Not talking about this stuff just enables it to go on and on unchecked.
You should be able to talk to friends at least, or a professional and be able to share where you are at and take advice from trusted people. You need this for you first and foremost as it is clearly affecting you. There is nothing to be ashamed of here – it isn’t your shame and you mustn’t carry it.
It sounds like it’s at a serious stage now and you have to ask yourself if something bad happens, could you carry the weight of not talking to his family and letting them know? It’s a big question.
Reading what you wrote about your husband, and having personally been where he is right now taking that exact same combination I can tell you this is going to get worse and worse.
Benzo and opiate mixing is dangerous and cam be lethal, a Google search will explain why. Mixed together they give a sense of euphoria and relaxation which feels amazing to the user, from the outside looking in as you are they just look completely levelled. Also, quitting won’t be easy as he’s been doing it for a long while and is likely to have a double whammy of withdrawals at the same time.
My guess is that his choice of drugs and also the cutting suggests he can’t manage his emotions at all without using.
Is he open to getting some help?
Can you get some support or help?