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Al anon is always good, and there is always counselling and other options. I’m not fussy about how I recover tbh I’ll throw whatever I need at this stuff
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Wow I get alot of identification there.
My wife and I lost a child around 4 years ago and I’m sure that’s where my prescription drugs abuse really took off – the trauma you have both been through will have a profound impact for sure. It sounds like he is using alcohol to martial emotions, I know I used external things to – even today (food for example)
It sounds like he needs to talk to someone first
Do you also have support?
Hey Tess
I’m 12 years sober in November.
I’m not sure what a healthy relationship with alcohol means tbh, you can either drink safely and stop when you have had enough, or want to, or you can’t. Maybe I’m too black and white.
I can’t diagnose anyone as alcoholic, but a quick look through the basic text of AA and you will probably see alot of similarities with what you have written. Aboit your partner above there….
The first thing to do is decide whether you want to carry on like this. That is going to mean spelling it out to him and being firm. Is he serious about wanting to change or just saying it when he feels rubbish or in the dog house?
How often is he drinking?
Personally don’t delay just calm it out and see what he says.
I will say now that denial is very powerful with addiction so I would be surprised he denies it even if you show him what you found
I probably said this before but is there any way at all you can try getting through to him on some level?
Sugar is addictive like any other substance. It produces a high. Could also be the bodies way of craving some energy which the drugs deplete when they are abused. I have had Insomnia ost of my life and the drugs were a way of sorting that out too
Your son is still there. In between you and him is this rotten addiction.
Stay strong and keep going. I hope he starts his recovery
Well done steph
Let me say that what you wrote above shows a great level of understanding about addiction that many people never get to, especially about it being managed. It’s a daily thing. It gets arrested and not cured one day at a time.
You have put your family first which is the right thing to do. Hopefully the detox programme will help him, and he fights his way back
I wish you all the best, if there is anything we can do please just post
Should add to what kel said that if my understanding is correct you don’t actually have to come off those substitutes if you don’t want too
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Thanks for posting
OK so by now you are already aware that sadly your partner is a cocaine addict. Getting shirty whem asked or approached is typical addict behaviour – we don’t like being confronted, we don’t like people knowing what we are up to and we certainly aren’t going to admit the problems.
You can also see that it creeps into all areas of every day life a simple pub visit on holiday.
The question is now is that what you want and what do you want to do about it as u less he admits he has an issue this will carry on and get worse
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I’m not a doctor so cannot provide medical advice and have to abide by forum rules too or I get posts removed.
The drugs you mention will help your husband get off opiates for sure but be aware that due to their half life, those drugs can also be very difficult to come off too, sometimes more so than the original. Is tapering not an option? “I don’t know what he is taking I guess
Hmmmm
Smoke and mirrors
The GP needs to be consulted here really if for nothing more than safeguarding getting more through them.
I’m not sure about drug services and their advice to be honest, I do feel that tapering and supervision is the safest way.
It’s clear though there is more to this as you are get timing limited information from him
It may, it may not. Just know though that it is possible to sort yourself out and recover, but the person has to be honest and accept they have a problem. Ses such an easy thing to say, the reality is very different.
Try to keep posting here. There are a ton of strong people on here and your situation will really help. Others too
Inherently addicts are dishonest to the core. Part of it is selfishness, part of it is that we don’t want people knowing what we are up to as deep down its wrong and we are fu of shame and remorse. Even so, we don’t want family or friends knowing that. Denial is powerful, being in denial means you don’t have to face up to the hurt and damage you have caused
I’m sorry you have to go through this. What I wi say reading what you wrote is that you have both feet in the ground with what is going on, as horrible and painful as that is. Do you think getting some support for you would help?
If you have any questions about addiction or drugs I can try to help as best as possible.