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Hi
We have very similar situations. My mum is also an alcoholic although thankfully she is getting help. However I’ve always been wary to bring any resentments etc up with her in case she does anything like suicide as she is also depressed.
From an outside point of view I think you are doing the right thing. You have children who are your priority (congrats on the newborn!) and it is your mums responsibility to help herself, not yours. She is the parent and needs to come to the realisation that it truly isn’t acceptable to go on as she has been. If anything were to happen, it would be on her, not you.
Also, I’m being a hypocrite here as I’ve totally had the same worries as you and its a lot easier saying to someone else what you think they should do, it’s a lot harder taking the advice when it’s your own situation!!
Maybe your mum needs this to kick-start her into getting help? Maybe say to her until she gets proper help then there won’t be anymore contact? I’m not an expert so these are just suggestions ????
In the meantime, try to put her out of your head and enjoy the time with your beautiful wee kiddos. Cuddles with them heal almost anything. At the end of the day, your children are your life moving forward and I’m sure they already bring you so much joy.
Hi, I’m so sorry you are going through this. This is just my opinion but I think you really need to talk to someone in order to protect your little brother. It sounds like you love him so much and as hard as it can be to speak out, sometimes that can be the best thing in the long run. Maybe having other people involved will help her see the light? It must be so difficult for you seeing all this and not knowing what to do. Is there someone you could speak to about protecting your brother? Maybe a teacher you trust?
I know from personal experience my dad won’t ever admit taking drugs despite him doing it for over 20 years and me being 30 now. He pretends like it’s nonsense even though it’s ridiculously obvious. I think a big part of it is that he’s ashamed to admit to me, his daughter, that he has a problem as he doesn’t want to disappoint me. Perhaps this is the same for your mum?
I really hope things get better x