[buttonboy]

Hey, I’m so sorry you are dealing with addiction, it is devastating isn’t it, my beautiful adorable 22 year old (button) is lost to the world of cocaine. It has devastated our family so I really feel your pain so much. As I have learned, until he is ready to quit there is nothing you can do. I hope you get your son back one day soon. It is a lonely place for a mum, I feel like such a failure as a parent but we have to tell ourselves this isn’t our fault. Sending you a hug x

[buttonboy]

Hi Sheree9, my son has a cocaine habit (we found out in June) and has £1000s of debt. He recently joined CA and that seems to help, he goes back every week without us having to argue the issue. He has relapsed so many times but all we can do is hope and pray one day he will recover. It is devastating isn’t it. I hope it works out for you xx

[buttonboy]

Hi AlwaysHopeful, I have no idea what the answer is. It destroys everyone doesn’t it. Our family is so fractured now. He is clean at the moment and heading back to Cocaine Anon group tomorrrow which is positive. I understand he will be linked up with Sponsor who is in recovery and will try to get him through it. He has tried a few times before but never gone to CA until last week. We are just praying he can recover and isn’t plagued with addiction all his life / the rest of ours. I hope your son will consider a support group. We have to keep hoping it’s all we have x

[buttonboy]

Thank you, I just don’t know what to do. He has attended Cocaine Anonymous for the first time which was good but we had a dealer at our door for the first time ever looking for money and he swears it is all over and he is giving it up. We refused to bail him out despite the tears and tantrums. I honestly feel like running away, we have already given him a fortune and seriously can’t afford it. Dreading Xmas as can’t afford gifts for anyone now. I am just so ashamed and embarrassed. I have never done a thing wrong in my life and we work so hard. It is so cruel and unfair.

[buttonboy]

Hi, you are amazing and your nephew is lucky he has you. I am so sorry you have this pain and heartache. We were a lovely normal family doing perfectly happy normal things until we found out our youngest son had a cocaine addiction four months ago. We are so sad and utterly devastated. My heart is broken and I dread this pain lasting as long as yours has. I hope she comes back to you all one day xx

[buttonboy]

I am so sorry and so scared too. Thank you

[buttonboy]

Thank you Paula I was going to contact Icarus Trust for support but I have to put in my email details and I am too ashamed to let anyone know who I am or what my name is. I had an estate agent out today valuing our home. I feel worthless, useless and utterly devastated. My husband and other children seem to be coping better than me. He sees how it has affected us/ me, he knows how much debt he is in, he is losing everything and won’t even try to help himself. I just don’t get it. What keeps you strong?

[buttonboy]

DESTROYED – Just had the worst day ever, he is in so much debt and it is killing us but we can’t keep helping him. He refuses to go to the GP to get help or even discuss a plan with us to pay something back to people. We are worried sick, I woke up this morning thinking he was dead and felt at peace because it was all over. Woke up properly and racked with guilt that I even thought it, I have cried most of today. The impact on us all is horrific – we were such a lovely happy normal wee family WHY US – WHY???

[buttonboy]

Thank you all so much.

[buttonboy]

Thank you so much, the pain in my heart is unbearable. It is so good to know I am not alone xx

[buttonboy]

Thank so much, I feel like such a failure. We loved them all equally growing up and it just doesn’t make sense. We are a normal family and live in a happy home with no family turmoil until now. We have spent £100s on CBT but it worked for a short while only. He won’t go to the GP and thinks he can’t just stop but for me he isn’t ready to even try. His counsellor said the same, we have to wIt until he is ready to give up. I dread things getting out and the community talking about him. I can’t bear to tell my elderly parents or any extended family. The shame I feel means I can’t even bring myself to tell my oldest friend. I am thinking if moving away to give him a fresh start but my husband doesn’t think that will work. We are destroyed inside, it is all so raw at the moment. I am so scared he damages his heart and doesn’t wake up. I just want my baby boy back ????

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