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Oh Lucy, Im so sorry…My heart goes out to you….Words will never be enough, but he is at peace now…Hugs to you and your family xxxxx

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Hey Lucy, I know that pain, and it hurts like hell……take one day at a time, and concentrate on you and the kids…..sending hugs x

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Hey Lucy, one day at a time…you are strong, you have got through so much already……..Im glad you have identified your priorities..sometimes it goes under the radar, with everything else that life throws at us…..Massive hugs to you and your kids….you go girl and ENJOY your time with your kids, concentrating on them and having fun with them..xxx

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Hi huNNI…….Son still waiting , court adjourned again…..hes doing ok, and really trying (I think)……Think of all of you daily, and hope your days are not too stressful……luv to all of you wonderful parents who are really trying for their kids…respect!!!

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He has to want it hunni…and you and no one else can save him…he has to save himself….Thats the really horrible part of loving an addict…..We are all here, but please concentrate on your kids and yourself…..before you know it they will have grown up…I pose the question, do you want the rest of their childhood in a home with a drug addicted father, or in a home that is peaceful, with no real hassle and a mum who concentrates on them….Hard to hear but the truth…you can do it…you have to put your feelings aside im afraid, especially when you have kids…your all they have!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Aww Lucy…how very brave of you…Its almost easier to carry on and try and muddle through. As a mother of an addict, I know too well I cant help him…Ive tried for 4 years…ive slowly pulled away, dont give him money, and he can only visit when he isnt on his crap….All the lies, deciet, stealing, just got too much and I was a nervous wreck,…BUT, I am stronger and know he needs to want to stop..when that time comes I will be there all the way supporting him..Its like ive lost him to this demon at the moment, but you can adapt to the situation, and I think you are right in wanting the best for you and your kids……This may be hard hunni, but its far harder being with a person on drugs who sucks the life out of you..literally!! Good luck, stay strong, and take things day by day….hugs xxxx

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I have to agree with Lucy….Kids around a drug user is more harmful for their future….and he is literally taking the food out of their mouths to feed his drug addiction….You may love him, but [Im sure you love your children more…..Personally I think you are putting your kids at risk…..and it will only worse…Those that use drugs are good at lying, stealing and telling you what you want to hear..I hfate to say this but by the sounds of it he is dragging you down, and at the moment you are letting him….DONT pay his debts……and make sure you have your bankcard on you at all times…….otherwise you will be left with more debt….sending hugs..stay strong!!!!

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Hi Mary…..im really hoping that he continues with the support group, tries to stop…. Drugs dont just effect the person taking them, it effects those around them….and MORE!! Unfortunately those who take drugs are selfish, they lie, , they are deceitful……the negative list goes on and on….big hugs luv Susie xx

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Oh hunni, I Still feel weary some days, but it does get better….My son came over yesterday and it was obvious he wanted a blow out before going to prison tomorrow. Asked his step dad for money and he said no…He doesnt ask me cause he knows better.. So he went out then came back at around 4ish in the morning…yes hed had a few drinks at a friends, and told his stepdad hed been offered exstacy,..whether he took it we dont know, but he went back to his exes..not heard anything, but will have my grandson tomorrow so his ex can go to court with him…….Is he on Facebook….I made an account and found out alot just by reading his page…just a thought!!! Stay strong hunni…he is old enough to look after himself and no doubt will turn up when things get too much….sendign hugs hunni xxxxxxx

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Hey hunni……I fear there is nothing left to do, other than wait….Stick to your guns, and perhaps just ask around quietly to check he is ok……sending hugs xxx

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Hey Fi luv, was wondering how things were…Glad you forgave your partner, and so glad your back together…..Drugs ruin families, peoples hopes and wishes…it is the evil of our world….My son was in YO AS A 17 YEAR old and said it was like a holiday camp….But come Wednesday he will be going to prison…..maximum 3 months, but I really hope he has time to think about the sh** life he has led so far….We all want the best for our kids, but they need to want it too….sending out luv n hugs to you and all the other mothers and father here xxx

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Hey hun…Wrapping my arms round you and congratulating you for ending your misery…….Whether his probation officer has said it or not (which if he has, then he obviously knows nothing about drug abuse) ignore it…I can sense your hurting, but it will get better…We never stop loving our kids, but we can make a stand and say enough is enough…….DONT let anyone make you feel like rubbish…YOUR NOT!!!!! It seems your story is my story …….the abuse the lies the stealing, the vile words of hate……..I choose not to be part of it, and for now am in a much better place. My son goes to court this Wednesday……he wants to move down south to start fresh and is making ago of it with his ex…whether it happens is up to him…ive heard it all so am not holding my breath…..ONLY OUR SONS CAN STOP THIS MISERY…..Dont forget that xxxxx here if you need me xxxxx

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Hi Weary……….how sad that you are living with this like all of us…the lies, deceit and lack of trust breaks us down day by day…..can I ask is her partner on drugs???? ITS NOT YOUR FAULT, ….im sure you will eventually make the decision that suits your family….big hugs xx

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Hi Sue…it took me a few years to smell the coffee as it were….its hard and giving in is all part and parcel of that road hunni….I sill feel mean now, but there is far more quiet in our lives…..Saw my son yesterday, nearly 2 weeks for him without mcat in his system…..before that he did a week and had a hit, then got back on the horse……I dont say anything about the drugs, but I hugged him yesterday ad told him I was praying for him, and that he deserved to be happy……he kissed me on the cheek, and said I will get there mum…….Hes back in court Wednesay then hes looking at 3 months……Sue your not locking the door on the him, just not being part of his life while he does drugs…..I know how hard and you have tried, god, you have tried everything…now its up to him…sending hugs xxxxx

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Hi Lauren sorry its been a while…….don’t ever ignore your gut instinct, because its almost always right…What he does when he minimise’s his addiction is make himself feel like he doesnt have a problem….And blaming others is what addicts do…..DONT TAKE IT….Its his problem, his addiction and you are not dramatising anything…..Your children are whats important in all of this. Is there anyone you can stay with for a few days just to get your head together????? What I will say is an addict should not be around children…thats my personal view…my son has a son, and ive told him if he is ever around his son when doing drugs, then I WILL go to social services….now as his mother thats hard to say, but his son deserves so much more…..Thankfully when ever he has been on a drug fuelled mission, he stays away….Come on Lauren, you can stay strong…your children need you to be the best parent you can be……..here if you need anything hunni xxxxxx

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