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Sue n fiona, sad and tired….you ladies are remarkable……..Sue, perhaps this will be his wake up call..no mum coming to his aid…….Fiona, perhaps whilst your son is in prison he has time to think and gets that wake up call, sad and tired, you stay strong hunni……xxxxxxx

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Ah ladies, my nerves are all over the place, i get a feeling only a mother gets, and know when something is wrong, and Saturday, all day was when that feeling re visited its ugly head!!! He bought his son and stepson back here last night, still coming down from his sh**..We went mad, and took them straight back…..I can really empathise with what some of you mums have said regarding wishing they hadnt been born ……I worked hard all my life, taught him right from wrong, a child couldnt have been loved more, and his step dad and I have ALWAYS been there for him….YOU LADIES, give me the strength to continue….I would love to tell him how he has changed our family, but will leave that for my letter I will write when he goes to prison…..I am going to put it all on paper warts and all…..what he does with that information is up to him, but I will not have him back in my house UNTIL he is clean….. Ladies I pray we all have a week where we can cope……luv to you all xxxxx oh and thankyou xx

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My sons choice of drugs is mcat,cocaine, weed, alcohol….we live in a nightmare….he hadnt taken anything for 7 days then BAM, he was that out of it over the weekend he was seen with no trousers on, came home begging for money, gave us verbal abuse when we told him to leave…….we cant save him, and yes in times of clarity he too hates what he does…unfortunately that isnt enough…From one mother to another, you need to concentrate on your kids…having social services involved , my guess is that if he were to come home, your kids would be put on the at risk register…Can I ask, has he been argumentative with you in front of the children, because if the answer is yes then they class this as domestic violence….another reason why they will be in your life, IF when he comes out of prison , you let him back in the home…..I think the kids will be counting on one parent whois looking out for their well being, and that parent is you hunni….think about it..x here for you xx

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Oh hunni,I feel for you…you need to ask yourself a question…Do you want your kids to grow up with a father who is an addict???? I know its hard cause he is daddy, and you probably feel very unsure as to what the future holds. At the moment he is putting drugs before you and the children. Loving them is never enough..he has to want to get off drugs. Hunni start thinking of you and the children..I know its hard, but you are all those kiddies have……wish I could come and give you a hug and say everything will be alright….I have a grandson, and my heart aches the way my son is…cause that little boy isnt enough….so between me and his mother and extended family, we are the ones who try and make his life fun and happy…. he dips in and out, which in my opinion is pathetic…..and ive told him as much…he will soon be going to prison, and ]I have to say im thankful…it will give us all time to breath more easier and have some peace from his vile world of drugs…. Come on hunni, stay strong, be there for your kids and let him sort his mess out …you have nothing to feel ashamed of….hugs , and am here if you need to talk x

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I spoke far too soon…..feeling sad, angry and alone 🙁

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He spend all day with his son Saturday , dropped him off then the preverbial hit the fan….He went out with a “friend” (urgh) got drunk, took some mcat and other rubbish, smashed a friends tv up, then went into town and was seen with no trousers on…..off his head! Ringing demanding money……..he is a pathetic excuse of a human… Im so angry, because once again he has done it…..He is at his exes as we speak, and has calmed down so she says, but what else can he do to mess his life up….He called me a F***** B**** and do you know what, at that point, I knew, everything I do and have done for him is all for nothing….He is selfish, conceited, a liar, a thief, and more…I really am beginning to hate the person he has become, the effect it has on my family and extended family..sorry for rambling but I think Im going to explode with rage…….and through all this my little one has to put up with an anxious parent…..how unfair is that???????????? Roll on 3 weeks when he goes back to court…lets hope they lock him up, then we can all get a bit of peace….

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Have your dreams shattered because he is prison or because he has been addicted for 10 years??? Im not sure what the answer is, other than be there for your kids..He chooses to do drugs, he chose to end up in prison…we are all repsonsible….I feel for you hunni, but as a mother to an addict, family around them isn’t the answer..it doesn’t help,because all we is continue to enable them. They have to want to help themselves….love is never enough. Take care of yourself, and your babies xx

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Hi Chelli……just wondering how things are going for you huni ??? xxx

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Sue, your son knows you love him……..as hard as it is for your own well being you have to try ans switch off….It has taken me a while, but I simply shut off from it all…..self preservation , or whatever you want to call it….My son is with me now along with my grandson….another day without drugs..but then we have the weekend….I will reserve judgement on what he decides to do.. Have a super time with your other son..relax, and enjoy your son’s company..make it one of those YOU moments..cherished time with him……big hugs xxx Susie

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Oh Gary hun, you are truly a remarkable dad, just like ALL the parents on here…I enabled my son for many years, and simply added to the nightmare, without even realising!! Ive got tough, and im sure ive said before but have told ALL the family not to give him one penny……He knows he is on his own…..He hasnt had anything for 6 days now, and although Im hoping against hope that this is it, Im not stupid……My son goes through spats, where he doesnt take anything for a while, then goes all out…..I can only support him when he is trying…..IF he goes back down the drug route, then I will once again pull myself away from him!

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He has been very ill coming down…….just got off the phone from his ex, and the drug buddys have been on at him to go out for the weekend…….we have already decided that he and his son would come to us for the weekend to try and keep him occupied….I really hope against hope he does the right thing and chooses his son……will let you know

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Hey ladies……our sons will always be our sons…even drugs cant take that way from us….we gave birth to them, we LOVE them unconditionally, but we don’t have to live their drug life with them. Fiona, I hope your visit was a good one, and you saw a glimmer of that boy you once knew…… Come on Sue, dont loose your resolve, you are an amazing mum, and your son knows it!!!!!! Us not enabling our sons is right…right for them and right for us…..Keep strong ladies, we can get through it…we just need to change certain things in our lives to do it…..luv to you all xxxxxxx

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Fifi and anyone else who is living with this hell……stay strong…My son hasnt taken drugs for 5 days…his case was adjourned, but im hopeful….he is back with his ex and she has given him one last chance…..he is ill, chest infection, tired which are all symptons but he smiled at me today and I saw a glimmer of the lad I knew….Early days, but I have to have some hope…….Fiona I hope you had a good visit, and knowing he is safe will be a weight off your mind…..sending all you parents much love, hope, and always a cyber ear to listen….xxxx

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Hadn’t seen my son since Saturday when he went off to see his child ( his ex agreed to him seeing his child)….Well blow me over he has been with her ever since and went to court today only for it be adjourned…She rang me this morning saying he needed some clean clothes and she was going with him to court…She also told me that the shit heads he hangs out with came to her door for him on Saturday night and he told them he was done……Im amazed!!! And wonder how long it will last but for the time being we have a chink of light….His case was adjourned till the end of the month so we have 4 weeks to see….I cant believe im saying this but she sure is one strong girl…….she has told him its his last chance and then she is done……Hope against hope it works!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hey Fiona, you hold your head up high……you have nothing to be ashamed of. The people in your neighbourhood haven’t lived your life. and probably most of them will be unaware of what is really happening… Don’t be too hard on your partner, don’t forget he has been going through this with you too….some people cope better than others…. Its another step to climb hunni……I hope you have a good visit, and im sending you massive hugs..xxxxxxx

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