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I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how tough a time you’re having. Surely, your GP can give advice as to who to talk to – if it’s destroying your relationship too you need support.

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Thank you – I’ll have a look for that.

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I think you are lucky he has told you he has a problem. That is definitely a way forward to getting help. He is aware he needs support and come to you. Is it worth going straight to your GP and asking for advice – particularly since he has been in this predicament before

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There is no reasoning with my daughter at all. She insists she doesn’t have a problem and refuses to accept she needs help. She sees what she is doing to the family as she has alienated both her sister and brother, both of whom she is close to. She blames everyone else for anything that happens and refuses to accept responsibility for anything. She can’t hold a job down, lives rent free with me and refuses to claim any benefits. I am so so sad for what drugs have done to a very intelligent young lady.

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Yes, I agree that sharing is very helpful. Just knowing you’re not alone makes you feel you can cope – at least for another day! It’s very difficult to share with friends who appear to have perfect lives. They don’t. And even if they do now, who knows what’s round the corner for them.

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I truly sympathise with you. It’s very very tough and I have come to realise it’s essential to look after yourself first. I am trying to find organisations that will help. I’m going to ask doctors advice next week. I will let you know if I find anything that is helpful. Keep strong. You need to be for your husband and other children. People remind me that our drug dependent kids are not bad people, they can’t help what they do as they are ill. They don’t realise the hurt they are causing.

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Thank you for your response. No, I too can see it never ending. My daughter can’t seem to hold a job down. She refuses to admit she has any problems at all but it is very obvious she is taking things. People advise me to ‘kick her out’ but, like you, I CANNOT see her on the streets. I am stuck too. My other two children are fine as well. I do talk to some friends but they have no real idea what it is like to live with. Have you found any groups that have helped you to cope with this?

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