[cathsp]

Take your time. Don’t pressure yourself. Your a born communicator! When you have something that needs saying you will.

Remember you have helped and supported people on here. And that has went a long way to keeping family and friends sane.

So just soak it all in a quietly connect to your group members. Listening is an important skill.

Good luck

[cathsp]

Take your time. Don’t pressure yourself. Your a born communicator! When you have something that needs saying you will.

Remember you have helped and supported people on here. And that has went a long way to keeping family and friends sane.

So just soak it all in a quietly connect to your group members. Listening is an important skill.

Good luck

[cathsp]

Take your time. Don’t pressure yourself. Your a born communicator! When you have something that needs saying you will.

Remember you have helped and supported people on here. And that has went a long way to keeping family and friends sane.

So just soak it all in a quietly connect to your group members. Listening is an important skill.

Good luck

[cathsp]

Take your time. Don’t pressure yourself. Your a born communicator! When you have something that needs saying you will.

Remember you have helped and supported people on here. And that has went a long way to keeping family and friends sane.

So just soak it all in a quietly connect to your group members. Listening is an important skill.

Good luck

[cathsp]

Take your time. Don’t pressure yourself. Your a born communicator! When you have something that needs saying you will.

Remember you have helped and supported people on here. And that has went a long way to keeping family and friends sane.

So just soak it all in a quietly connect to your group members. Listening is an important skill.

Good luck

[cathsp]

Thank you Lindyloo.

I will read the thread you suggested. I received support via phone support via Adam and attended the family and friends virtual group advertised on the Adam website.

I like this forum as it helps with an immediate response.

I must that I have some great advice from people who are overcoming their addictions.

I find it insightful and thoughtful

Thanks again

[cathsp]

Hi Danman

Thanks for your reply. My son did have a blip on 2/ 12 when broke the shower etc. And had another blip last week. 20/01/2021.

He seemed to have stopped topping up a couple of days later 23/24 but has just stayed in his room since. He is a bit irritable

I am so glad Your staying strong and using supports ????

[cathsp]

I have seen or spoken to my son. He continues to lie on his bed listening music. I think he still has a drug hangover. He is irritable and uncommunicative.

What a waste for a couple of days on drugs.

Hope you all are holding in there????

[cathsp]

Brilliant! I knew you could do it. Your a communicator. Even if you believe it yet! There is a person inside you that has been waiting to get out for a long time time. The real you.

Candle still burning ???? your worlds on fire and so are you. Lol.

My son has showered and cleaned up. Still a bit rubbered but doesn’t seemed to have topped up.

And have had a stress free day. Watching how the other half live on the Seven Sea Explorer.

Well a girl can dream eh!

Speak soon ????

[cathsp]

Tomorrow will be a month? Good for you! Keep going. Believe in yourself. Focus on what life will be like. Focus on the life you want.

I made my son a vision- board based on his hopes and goals. And it sits under his TV so he sees it every day.

It has pictures of him when he was in a bad way. Isolated with no friends. No money No plans.

And the other half has his hopes of getting his driving licence back. Buy a BMW. Friends, holiday to Spain.

It scares him when he has relapsed to think that he sunk so low in such a short time.

I m going light a candle for you, me and my son. The candle is going burning all weekend. An eternal flame of love and light. I promise. Let’s speak again

Nite.

[cathsp]

Thank you for reaching out to me. It means a great deal. Your words have so much meaning. And I can relate that to my son’s situation. He has not touch the stuff since 2 Dec. And in the last 2 days you would think his room was a drug den……messy, smelly etc. He is filthy too.

You would look at him and his environment and I think it would hard to believe is only been 2 / 3 days…..

I wonder if it’s about saying I no longer have an addicted personality. And acknowledging that people think it’s takes extreme confidence to kick it.

They say connection is the cure to addiction. My son has yet to connect. You are a great communicator. Insightful, empathetic and caring. You certainly helped me tonight.

Your words remind me that my son is a vulnerable adult on the crossroad of a new life. And I will pray that it will be 2 months, 3 months and so on before he is tempted again.

I do hope it’s the same for you. I have no doubt we will talk again. Keep going, believe in yourself, and don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s your journey. Xx

[cathsp]

They contact him by phone and even turn up up the door

I thank you so much for your response it means so much to be heard.

[cathsp]

Thanks Dx

I attend a zoom meeting for family and friends and have used that Adfam Phoneline when I was in a desperate place.

My son won’t listen to newbies group unfortunately. In relation to finding him hobbies everything is boring. U ask him what he finds of interest and he has not got an answer.

Anyway caught him today lining up a drug deal caught him in the toilet with the DHC in his mouth but he swallowed them before I could eject them.

He tells me I imagined this OMG!!!!

He then offers a urine sample to test that smells of soapy water……

He was doing amazing but he never learns…..

I cannot trust him

[cathsp]

Hi Jodie I was really struck by your post. What an upsetting and seriously unpleasant situation. Lockdown has turned most people lives upside down.

I know it’s a bit cliche but it sounds like you need to take one thing at a time.

Housing well he has the ball at his feet there! Sorry to say!

Cocaine, partner, money well where to start. No easy answers!

Give yourself sometime to think things through. Is your relationship is truly over. Could you put some limits on his cocaine usage? Would he follow them at least during contact with the kids.

It will take time to get your life back on track. Don’t give up.

I hope this post helps just know we are listening

[cathsp]

????????

[Author]

Posts