I relate so much to what you have said. She blames her behaviour on her own horrible childhood and just doesn’t take any responsibility for her actions. It’s just so frustrating. Clearly this is personality rather than purely alcohol because she behaves the same way even when sober.
I don’t have children yet but I can’t imagine raising them around her – she can’t regulate her behaviour.
I know I need to safeguard my own mental health but it really is difficult. She carries on with this ‘woe is me, I know you hate me’ pantomime if I try to distance myself. She doesn’t see that her behaviour is unacceptable because she’s been living in chaos so long she just doesn’t recognise any of this as abnormal.
