[clare-b]

I really admire how strong you have been. It must have been heartbreaking for you. So pleased things are going well at the moment. I really hope this continues for you. A counsellor once told me try to enjoy the good times because relapse may never happen but if it does you know you are strong enough to cope. Xx

[clare-b]

Thanks for your comments. I got good at not been manipulated during her last relapse but this one caught me off guard. It is hard because she has mental health problems and is adopted. But I know you are right. I get angry with myself when I fall for it again. Two nights ago her friend who she is staying with called to say she (the friend) was being held in the car of a drug dealer and being threatened because of my daughter’s debts. This friend is fed up with my daughter I gave in and paid the debt transferred money to her account. I could hear the dealer threatening. Not sure if this is one big charade and I was a mug again. I told her friend no more. Anyway my daughter has admitted now she needs to get some help. I gave her the numbers for the drug service. I just hope she uses it. I have been so good at detaching over last few years. I feel like I have relapsed! I went on a one day course a couple of years ago aimed at helping families to stop enabling. It was really useful. I might do it again – I think I need to! Thanks so much again xxxx

[Author]

Posts