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That’s brilliant
Hi everyone
I to am in a similar situation my ex is a crack addict, he too says he doesn’t like it and he wants help but does nothing to get help. We have 4 children and social services are now involved I’ve been trying to distance the children and myself from him but it’s hard when you’ve been with someone 18 years. My family are far from supportive to them it’s black and white get rid, cut him out and move on to someone else. If only it was that simple. His addiction started at some point this month 19 months ago. He was given 40.000 inheritance money in June in less then 2 months all gone. Everything is always someone else’s fault especially mine, I’m a bitch, I’m nasty and my attitude has changed nothing is ever him. It’s really stressful on one hand i want to help him on the other I’m like you chose this, this is down to your choices. The feelings I now experience is all new the constant worry feeling like something bad is going to happen all the time, looking over my shoulder and feeling sick.
I agree with that. Just wish I could totally switch off. Im laying here now wondering if he’s OK but I know that wherever he is, he isn’t thinking the same.
Really ? Maybe I could try it. I just don’t know now. If he’s worth fighting for anymore he could of killed my son and he doesn’t seem to think he’s done anything wrong.
The drug dealers family they are all in it on it. They prey on the weak. The dealer takes them to his mums and she makes the food and buys them clothes and says things like we’re your family now. It’s sick. If he doesn’t hit rock bottom in the next week or so then I dont think he will. Obviously I don’t want any harm to come to but I do wish someone could knock some sense into him.
I think he will come back but not alive his scumbag dealer and the family have brainwashed him. They’ve groomed him into believing their his family they want whats best for him and they give him more because im a bad person and he needs it to make him feel better
I’m not sure about counselling either. Like you I thought why do I need counselling but maybe it is worth a try. The anger and pain I feel maybe they know how I can deal with it.
Well there going to speak to the council about having me moved and they put you in touch with other agencies that can help so waiting on that. They’ve advised me to have councilling and stuff to help process what’s gone and going on
I’m get a non molestation order so no contact can be made. He still believes I’m in the wrong, he only sees bad in me so I think this is for the best. If he can’t see that nearly intentionally running over his 17 year old son as being wrong there’s no hope. In the craziness of it all ive bumped into the side of his car due to pressing the accelerate not the break and that is all he’s moaned about to the son he could of killed on a usually busy main road
Yeah it is tough. I’d say at this moment in time it’s torture
Womans aid are helping me now
Thank you for always being here on this. I do need to break away now.
Your right. That’s last things escalated badly and i could of lost my son. He tried to run down his own son. I may even be in trouble with the police myself because I crashed into his unintentionally its because I was panicking as my son was being dragged down the street by his own dad. He’s now claiming his being abused by me, can you believe that? The only person who is abusing him is him and his dealer. I think this has been a major wake up He’s beyond help.
I don’t feel like myself the anger building up inside me is scary tonight I actually felt so angry I didnt even know where my head would take me. For a split 2nd I sat outside where is car was parked and his dealers and I just wanted to smash their cars up and scream at the top of my lungs about what their doing. I did shout your done now and his name your absolutely done. I got home about 5 minutes later if that he pulled up. I kicked his car door didn’t mark or even leave a shoe print and yes I know its not right but it was that or do worse to him. He’s now claiming im abusive which is hilarious considering I was the one left with bruises last week. He’s absolutely deluded now im the bad guy because he’s sleeping out of his car. I told dont even try it you’ve chose this life not me not my kids.
Im destroyed inside but im trying my hardest not to let him see.
I can’t accept him the way he is because I have to keep my children safe especially with social services involved. And I don’t want this life for them. My baby has never had a dad because he took up this habit 3 months before she was born. That breaks my heart, I’m heartbroken for all of my children the other 3 are all old enough to know what their dad is doing which is worse for them.
How are you doing?
No not by the looks of things.