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It’s definitely a roller coaster he’s using whilst on the medication that’s if he even had it yesterday. He went down the to some local lowlifes last night to do it. I can’t live like this It’s too much. I want him out of our lives he’s proven to me me and kids mean nothing so now I’m going to do the same to him. If crack is what he wants crack is what he can have. He can sleep on the streets now I’m done with it.
I’m glad you had a nice weekend but sad your about to go through the rubbish time again.
When I look at him now I’m just disgusted I actually think my love for him has almost gone now.
I hope your all ok
Hi liberty
£20 gets him what he calls a 2 and a 1 which he has 2 dark 1 light. Some people only have 1 or the other and some have both so I’m told ive done alot of digging to find out things.
I think the doctors is the way forward although the place i contacted myself originally is the place he’s now under.
I really hope that, that is all he’s had but again today he’s taken his medication in front of me too without me saying a word to him.
Thank you for kind words and support.
I hope your bf gets help soon as you know it’s very early days for my ex so only time will tell if it’s a success but I hope it is. And I hope that will be the case for your bf nothing worse then this habit it takes over your life aswell as their’s
Thank you liberty.
If he doesn’t have me he has no one to support him. That’s what makes things so hard for me. Because he needs support or he’ll have to be with other dealers and addicts. He’s not in the house he’s in a caravan outside. I can’t have that around the kids plus social services wouldn’t have that too, which is right.
He’s actually just sent me a message saying he already feels a bit better which has come as a shock. He has also just admitted another surprise that he has had £20 worth since being on treatment I’m annoyed but it’s not as bad as it could be.
Sb2020
It’s very hard when you love someone to turn your back on them.
I’m not strong believe me, plenty of people have turned against me for not cutting him out completely. I’ve also been accused of putting him before my children which is rubbish, I’d never do that but it is because of my children I’ve tried to help him. If I can help get him of this stuff and they can have their dad back why shouldn’t I try to do that?
I’ll never fully trust him again, I don’t think anyone can after something like this.
I’m glad he’s gone to get help and he’s on medication to help stop it all. I just hope it continues.
I 100% agree with you about there should be more help out there for us. It’s very isolating and frustrating. I’ve been in some dark places with all this and I’ve done a few stupid things too out of desperation to get it all to stop to make him see the damage it’s caused.
How long has he been on it for ?
I hope he gets help soon.
Sending love your way
Jaynhissay
I’m so pleased you manage to beat your cravings. You must be proud of yourself it shows how far you’ve come.
Have you been off It a while ?
Sb2020
Yeah it does make you feel constantly miserable. Maybe you need to call his bluff have you tried that before ?
Myself and my ex had been together 18 years first time we ever split because of this.
We’ve had alot of time apart in the year We’ve been apart he kept coming back when he needed a breather I think he’s been back but not living in the house for just over two weeks and he’s gone for help. It’s very early days. He has to get place to live although I think he thinks he’ll move back in with us but too much has happened. And too many other people are involved now.
It’s sad I thought we would always be together but it wasn’t meant to be. I don’t know once he has his own place how any of us will manage being apart but this is where his decisions have led us.
Hi Liberty
Yes he did cash the cheque he did give me some money but what he owes me there’s still plenty more he needs to give me back.
I’m not sure if he did get any but I do he possibly did. He go shopping like he said he was going to and when I went to him this morning I didn’t see any wrappers like normal just cigarette butts and his pipe was there but in bits so I don’t know what to think. He’s had his medication so this is dose 3. He gets 1 dose a day. Normally he has to have it at the chemist so they see him take it but obviously its closed Sunday so they give you Sundays dose to take away with you. I thought he’d take it before he was supposed to but he didn’t.
I want to believe he wants this but im not sure if I’ve forced it on him.
It sounds to me you have been extremely supportive of your bf. I can’t be supportive of the habit. To me he never needed to do it, he knew how against drugs I was and he did it anyway. I can’t forgive that. Also I can’t forgive how loyal he was to the dealer and how nasty and disgusting he became towards us to please him. He’s lost so much for that dealer, I’m still not how much he can see his habit and dealer took from him.
Sb2020
My ex doesn’t like to talk about his problems he’s never been much of a talker often his silence says enough. If your barking up the wrong tree but if im right he’ll be silent. I think they do know the damage they cause but they need their fix more to understand how we feel.
Do you think I’m expecting too much? I’ve had a little while to calm down and maybe I am. I guess it won’t happen over night but I get so frustrated with it all.
Waste of time. He hasn’t even given it 24 hours he’s had a check through today and all he wants to do is cash it and get some. I’m I’ve told him to leave the deal was to help and sort it out and he’s failed.
Well he’s been and seems positive only time will tell.
Fingers crossed this has a positive outcome but I’m not in denial I know there’s a long road a head a possibly bumps in the road too.
If you don’t mind me asking what made you relapse? You have to give a exact reason, what i mean is was it something from your past that triggered it or something new ?
How did you get into it ?
My ex when he does actually speak and not sit there like he’s mute mentioned delayed grief and although it maybe did play a part I can’t help thinking he did just because he could.
I don’t think he gives his children a second thought ever.
Hi liberty
He’s asked me to go with him but I’m not sure I’m allowed but I’m going to take him.
He’s been distant for a couple if days which makes me worry that he won’t even make the appointment but we’ll see. I’m not holding on forever if he doesn’t attend I’m done with it all. We split a year ago so I don’t need to be holding on to him.
It’s for my kids I’m doing this for.
I hope in your case I’m wrong about the dealer but in his I knew I wasn’t. To my knowledge he hasn’t seen that one in two weeks but unfortunately there’s one just around the corner from my house.
I hasn’t realised until recently just many dealers and addicts was in and around where I lived. It’s crazy, disgusting and sad at the same time.
I hope your partner gets help after this weekend. It’s been an anxious wait I thought he get in at the doctors and bam treatment would start but it’s been over a week for this appointment which in the grand scheme of things isn’t long it just feels like the longest time.
I really hope if he attends that treatment starts. I know it isn’t just about treatment there’s more to it but it’ll help , I’m hoping.
Thank you that may be helpful.
To be honest I don’t know but today I feel anxious and sick and I know why because I’m suspicious again. It’s also because I’ve been around my mum who is far from supportive. I must the only person who loved lockdown because it meant I didn’t have to mix with anyone. I don’t want to mix with people because they ask questions I don’t want to answer. I know whats going on, I know my situation isn’t normal and it’s not ideal. But I’m trying to make the most of a rubbish situation for my kids I feel I need to help their dad but what I will say is if he messes up his treatment when he goes on it that’s because I have done more then most would and at least I can honestly say to my children I did everything I could.
Hi liberty
He’s going to his first appointment Friday.
He’s still using but I guess until he’s on treatment it’s expected. He reckons once he’s on treatment that’s it.
Disappearing your right it’ll be with some dealer and work on the side in exchange. He’s round about said that to me, he never admits anything but when I’m right he’s silent which is admission in it’s self.
I feel a little better although I just wish this part of my life was over.
How are you doing ?
No it isn’t your fault at all, don’t blame yourself. It’s his fault and his fault alone. It’s funny how we get accused of affairs and things when it’s them doing wrong. I feel miserable and stuff most of the time too and that is due to them and their habit grinding us down. They are so self-centered they can’t see the damage their doing because they feel their drugs make them happy.
I wish I could say something positive to pick you up but unfortunately I don’t.
Take care of yourself x