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So sorry to be reading these comments. I just want to wave a magic wand and fix every thing. My husband is the same – nothing is his fault, I’m portrayed as the nagging wife for being rude enough to wonder where my husband is at 5am!! Although he assures me he is 40+ days clean… he’s been hanging out with his coke taking friends this week…. and I’m getting shouted at for not trusting him, hmmmm! Tonight he isn’t answering calls… so likelihood is it’s going to be one of those nights where I have no sleep and go to work tomorrow morning wrecked. I keep saying to myself ‘this is so unfair’ or ‘I really don’t deserve this’. I’m trying to support him, but constant lies and arguments make it impossible.
I can’t offer any advice or solutions, but please know that you’re not alone x
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. This is actually the first thing I’ve written on this site, I came on here hoping to find similar help! I’m in a very similar position… my husband has always used cocaine (without my knowledge) but it’s only been the past 18 months that it has became an issue…. Debts spiralling, losing his job, staying up all night etc.
Regarding your question, how do you think he would react if you confronted him? I’ve learned the hard way that my husband is going to lie to me regardless of how many promises he has made. I have spoken to DrugFam several times who have stressed to focus on my own well-being and taking care of myself… makes sense but is easier said than done.
Are your savings 50/50? I’d be tempted to check the balance and if he has been dipping into it for drugs, then move your part to another account. You need to protect your own future finances.