I hate to do this, however, I have been reading on alanon and other sites and it really upsets me that everything is always a walk around for an alcoholic and their abusive ways. I am already terrified and embarrassed enough to even discuss with strangers and looking at these sites where the addict is excused away just gets me. I guess I’ll just always have to clean up the mess and cover up because this is the role we are given. I will lie and cover up everything and let the abuse continue.