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Thankyou I’m going to listen to it now, I’m feeling so drained I hope it helps me x
Thankyou I’m going to listen to it now, I’m feeling so drained I hope it helps me x
I’m in the same situation been with my partner 4yrs split up for 3 months I thought he’d changed cos he was suicidle but things are worse, the lies disappearing every weekend I’m scared every day if he’s going to come home & he blames me, he’s blown about 30 grand in a year & I can’t help him I’m at a loss & wonder is it worth it? I need strength not to take him back cos I would love to no can anyone beat this addiction or is this our lives forever
Thank you I’m trying I’m just gutted
It’s heartbreaking I just found out he’s private messaged half the girls in my town when he’s of his nut, they must think I’m a mug when they see me with him, but not no more he can have them I’ve put him in the gutter for ruining mylife & hurting me so bad
It’s heartbreaking I just found out he’s private messaged half the girls in my town when he’s of his nut, they must think I’m a mug when they see me with him, but not no more he can have them I’ve put him in the gutter for ruining mylife & hurting me so bad
He’s high on drugs somewhere cos he knows I’ll never go back, so I’ve changed the locks & phone number u never no he might get help now he’s hit rock bottom but I’ll ner go back
I’ve been on my own a month I felt suicidle & didn’t want to live anymore but for the first time I feel free & looking forward to a better life.
I spent years of everyday is he coming home where has his money gone, losing jobs sleeping for weeks,I was living his addiction but no more I’m free from stress & arguments, I hope u all have a happy ending cos I will now
Can I ask are u still with her? I feel so awful cos this time I know he has no money lost his job & his phones of, I put money in his bank for his phone bill but then saw 30 come out for porn sites, I’ve had to get out cos what ever I do for him & help him get a van so he can go and be a roofer on his is just not enough & being on this site & your comments is making me stronger & I’m starting not to blame myself for nagging him cos I know he’ll be dead soon, he’s on it every day don’t sleep hides from everyone.
I know I have to move on & me doing this might make him realise he’s lost everything, I need the strength cos I know in a few weeks he will be begging for him back & I can’t go back I’m mentally & emotional amused by him
Can I ask are u still with her? I feel so awful cos this time I know he has no money lost his job & his phones of, I put money in his bank for his phone bill but then saw 30 come out for porn sites, I’ve had to get out cos what ever I do for him & help him get a van so he can go and be a roofer on his is just not enough & being on this site & your comments is making me stronger & I’m starting not to blame myself for nagging him cos I know he’ll be dead soon, he’s on it every day don’t sleep hides from everyone.
I know I have to move on & me doing this might make him realise he’s lost everything, I need the strength cos I know in a few weeks he will be begging for him back & I can’t go back I’m mentally & emotional amused by him
Danman can I just ask u cos u are making us feel so much like were not going crazy, with u being & addict & reading what the partners go through does it help u more to see things from the other side cos I don’t think my partner/ex knows how much & deep rooted his lies and actions have caused they way I feel, can u ever get through it
I’m sorry your going through the same, I feel richer now, I took over his banking app to watch & cut the a card up on his other bank so he had savings but I found out he got an additional card sent to his mums & he spent the lot.
I’ve been on 3 holidays to show him what money can do but he has no concept of money I would be left with no money cos he uses my card & puts me overdrawn, the last straw was when my daughter tried to commit suicide & I was in hospital for 2 days & he used my card put me in debt got of his nut & I couldn’t find him to pick me up from hospital.
I had the sob story he couldn’t cope which I took him back but life was always about him & I was drained so much I didn’t notice my daughter struggling cos I was to buzy keeping his spirits up so he wouldn’t hit rock bottom, I hope u can all get through this but reading everyone’s post I don’t think they’ll ever change & we’ll all be saying the same feeling hurt drained scared in another 10 years time
Reading these posts makes me feel like I’m not alone, why do they disappear I just don’t get it, it’s like he wants to be free to do drugs.
I can’t see anywhere out I wish I read up on it more 4 years ago cos I would of stayed away, to me there’s no happy ending if they get clean it’s a waiting game & in 2 years we’re back there again, I would rather be on my own for the rest of mylife than keep getting hurt by someone who is supposed to love me, I hope u get the strength to pull through
I can’t thank u enough your replies have given me strength, I have just been for a run & I’m planing to do things for myself cos the last 4 years I’ve been controlled & wasn’t allowed out to see my friends or nothing, I can see now it’s because someone will tell me something he’s done, u don’t realise how much you’ve helped me thank you
Yes she allows it I’ve had loads of arguments with her, she spends his money everytime he got them grants, he done 20 grand & I still took him back.
He lost his job & my mum put up 7 grand for a van for work cos she saw the good him in & he vanished for 3 days & I knew I had to get out but were trying to get the money back from his mate who we were buying the van of, it’s all a mess it makes me hate him more but I miss him so much