Liberty,
I am in awe at your mindset and strength. Sometimes I wish I could reach this point of acceptance and distance myself from the situation when it happens, but it is so difficult in practice. Ultimately, so many people on this forum are in the same position in their relationships but they don’t want to walk away, so I guess the only alternative is the acceptance you describe.
How do you know that you can trust him? I’ve found messages on my husbands phone to other women, calls from suspect numbers (when I’ve googled them), and this is what plays on my mind the most. It’s perhaps one thing to accept the drug taking behaviour but it’s difficult to accept the other behaviours that go with it.
Take care, and thank you for what you wrote – it’s really helpful.