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I know with heroin drug test, if your clean and you have bread with poppy seeds on the top it comes back positive for heroin. I’m not to sure if there is anything simular to cocaine.
But I don’t want to say he is lying incase he is not. I guess your going to have to judge this for yourself. Obviously he could be lying and sounds like he is, well.. That’s what us addicts do. If he lives with you look for signs. Up all night, bed all day, drinking, not looking you in the eyes when talking to you, no money, asking for money for bills or something that doesn’t need paying.
I really don’t want to say he is lying because that’s wrong of me. How many times is he failing it?
I’m from Manchester in UK.
I said the same about meetings I’d never go ect… But I did in the end and I’m 107 days clean now and I feel great. How often do u use?
I’m not to sure your best off googling it. But does your son want to stop?
It’s OK, but he needs address this straight away. Because alcohol addiction when it gets bad, it really is serious to your health.
Hope he sorts it????
Don’t be daft, I’m always here if u need to talk to someone.
When some one is bad on alcohol and they get like that they do say u need to let them drink. Because if you don’t they can have seizures or something else I’m not to sure. It’s sounds crazy but not having a drink can be lethal when they get passed a stage. My aunty was an alcoholic and she died this year from it in Portugal. She came to my grans funeral, and she collapsed. My cousin wouldn’t let her mum have a drink, and my other aunty who was a sister at
the hosp said.. That’s the worse thing u could do. You should of let her have a drink. I think now if he’s like this he needs medical recovery as well. Not to sure how that works. It’s esculated pretty quick this hasn’t it, because he was clean a while not so long ago.
But he really needs to get help now with this, and go see a doctor, because it will just get worse and worse.
Hope your ok
Thanks sooo much for that. I really appreciate it. I really do hope he goes Down the right path. No mum should worry about there kids in these situations. I’ve got to do my step 8 I think it is next week. Which is make amends to people I’ve harmed and my mum is one of them.
Thanks again x
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Hiya Linda, how are you doing? Hope your doing well, how’s your son? Has he gone back to getting better or as he not bothered. Hope your OK.
Your right what u are doing no matter how much it hurts. In recovery we have to think of ourselves 1st then everything else falls into place. I hope he gets well soon ????
Hiya, sorry to hear about your son. It’s crazy what this stuff does to people. And they say tough love is the only way in the end. Is he gonna try and sort himself out or is he gonna give up again?
Must be heartbreaking watch this happen to your son. I’ve put my own mum through a pot of stress
To be honest your flogging a dead horse. Deleting the numbers your self won’t help. He will find otherways. I know u mean well but all this needs to be done from him.
Your not controlling him at all, you just want the best for him. But he needs to want this him self. He needs to cut everyone off to do with coke. Even delete all social media accounts as u can message dealers on there.
Maybe tell him if he is serious of quitting u want proof he is trying. I use give my gf my phone on the usual days I used and my car keys, not buy any alcohol. And a few other things.
Hiya Amy, hope your are OK. I’m over 100 days from coke now. After using for 11 to 12 years. I just finally had enough of it. My addiction was like once a week, or every 2 week or a month but it got quite bad the last year.
God knows why he would want to try spice after what it does to you.
Anyways. I couldn’t do stuff like use the baby’s milk money ect.. That’s just to low for me. Sorry to be blunt. I always used what I could afford. But everyone is different. If he has one, no matter what we both know he’s gonna want more soon after that’s what this shite does to us. It’s so addictive. I finally joined cocaine anonymous 3 month ago and I’ve been clean ever since. I got a sponsor and I’m working the 12 steps and I go to meetings online.
Your partner needs to want to stop for him self and be determined to quit otherwise it won’t work. Does he want to quit?
I’d have a quiet word with him no screaming and that which I don’t blame u if u do. And ask what does he want??
If he wants to quit he needs delete all dealers numbers, and try and change his daily life around and get to some ca meetings. He can’t have alcohol either as this is a trigger to get coke.
Then if he doesn’t try, you really need to think of your 5 month old daughter. What if u needed milk, food last min and he had spent it. When it comes to situations like this and he is not prepared to quit, I think you need get rid ASAP. Kids come 1st. Sorry to be blunt but I’m being honest. If he’s robbing milk money now, what is he gonna be robbing in the future if he’s not prepared to stop.
Plus do you think he could be on crack or summat else? I don’t mean that in a bad way but that stuff makes u do things like that. But I could be wrong. Id stop giving him any money. And if u have any ties with banks together or cards. Hide them all now. Feel free to ask me anything
I know what you mean that you just want the best for him. But then it’s that old saying.. About taking a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink it. It’s mad how many people drink after work and don’t think they have a problem. Like a can or 2 after a bath at night and that. You do end up relying on it.
It’s natural to ponder things, we all do it and question things I wouldn’t worry about it. It just shows we care.
Your right it is like counselling haha. But it does work talking to others and venting your frustration or even helping others. I always say that one person can just say one thing and it can change your life. I’m probably going over the top here, but it’s true. That’s why I’ve always come on here, it helps me and if I can give some good advice, both see the benefits.
Thanks so much for that it means a lot ❤️x
I know what you mean that you just want the best for him. But then it’s that old saying.. About taking a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink it. It’s mad how many people drink after work and don’t think they have a problem. Like a can or 2 after a bath at night and that. You do end up relying on it.
It’s natural to ponder things, we all do it and question things I wouldn’t worry about it. It just shows we care.
Your right it is like counselling haha. But it does work talking to others and venting your frustration or even helping others. I always say that one person can just say one thing and it can change your life. I’m probably going over the top here, but it’s true. That’s why I’ve always come on here, it helps me and if I can give some good advice, both see the benefits.
Thanks so much for that it means a lot ❤️x
It sounds like he wants to drink and he thinks your over the top, that’s just my opinion so I could be wrong.
The problem with someone who doesn’t want to quit, he won’t want to lean on you for comfort or to talk. If he did he would be doing everything possible and talking to you. My gf isn’t supportive like you come across. But I don’t know what he’s thinking if he really wants to stop or not.
Is he back now? Where does he go? Does he go a friends house?
I know what u mean back to square one. I’m dreading relapsing. Because this is the furthest I’ve got and to relapse i would be gutted.
Just go with your gut instinct if you think he is up to something that normally is right. Well sometimes. Or just have a civil convo whats he been up to and that.
Thanks for that, she had a lot of fun. I just hope it continues.