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No worrys pal. I was never a bad drinker or alcoholic. But if I have 1 sip. I’m getting that shit ASAP. So I can’t touch beer again. So I have avoid pubs now. But you know what mate I’ve seen so many people say that their life is so much better without drugs and alcohol. It’s just believing it. Speak soon mate
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Wel that’s good then mate. Just keep telling your self 1 day at a time. You will get there mate just believe in your self and stay positive. What ever gym equipment you have got, write down a 2 week programme, even put some other things to do in it. I’ve just done another and put do some decorating on mine. I’ve been for a 2mile walk this morn. I was up at 5am meditating. It sounds stupid meditating but it really does help.
Alot of addiction is negative thinking and then that devil on your shoulder telling you that you will be OK. But we both know what the downer will be like. My last relapse on boxing day my heart was pounding for 4 days I had bad anxiety and I just can’t live like this anymore.
I know what u mean about the gyms pal. I’m the same, it’s sent my head west this lock down and I’ve had enough. We just need to keep busy mate. my email
bonner83@outlook. Com
I guess only your husband will know if he is living the life he wants to. But I do know one thing, that most addicts who admit they have a problem, don’t want to live this life and hate it, and we try are best to stop. I’ve been doing it 11 years and it’s mostly at weekends, quite a few times it was only once every few week. But I always said I’d never do meetings or rehab because of work. But I joined CA in Dec. So I guess it’s how bad you want it aswell. You really do need a good support network. Pocket rehab is a good app tell him. It’s like a facebook home page with all addicts talking to each other and can ask for help. It’s very useful.
He sounds like my gf screaming at me for a plate. Just remember none of this is your fault, you can say all you want to him but when that downer kicks in he will just be feeling awful and depressed. Just leave him be. But that’s up to. I tell my gf stop reminding me what I’ve done and I’ve messed up again. I don’t want her to make me feel worse, if that makes sense.
There was a doctor on my meeting last night who use be on it for 3 days on end. It effects everyone. I always say is that we’re just stuck in a big rut and need get new hobbies and things to do to keep us busy, mentally and physically.
The thing is he probably really does mean it when he says he wants to stop when he’s not on it. When coming down off cocaine you get suicidal thought and bad depression for days. It’s to do with dopamine in our brains. So he really probably does mean it when he wants to stop.
But I never really believed this, but it is a disease and its like a devil on your shoulder when you don’t want to use.
I’ve been down stairs on my own at 6am crying my eyes out, when it’s all gone depressed and suicidal texting my mum admitting it to her for the 1st time asking for help.
It broke her really. I guess he needs a good support network and get to some meetings. I’ve got a sponsor now and he’s helped me so much and has talked me out of a few bad days.
That where you say you wouldn’t use if you had your kids. Chances are are mate.. You would. I have done and I’m not proud one bit. Addiction makes you do stupid things. It’s all about recognising that voice in your head which tells us it’s OK to use when it’s not. We use so many excuses to use, arguments, road rage, stress, work, it’s just are brain making excuses to use. So we need to be mentally stronger. Don’t let anything beat you down. Try and stay positive. I’ve tried everything to stop. Hypnotist, safes to put phone and keys in, handcuffs to handcuff me to the bed lol.
What are you doing now to stop?
From Bolton mate, you?
Hiya Sarah. I’ve got a coke habit, 40 days clean today, I hate the stuff BTW and I’m doing everything to stop. I’m on meetings now, as this was my last straw.
Anyways, I think you need to confront him and tell him it’s positive. Or he is just gonna think he’s got away with it and use and use. He will lie and minipulate you with excuses of were he is going and why. I know its heart breaking for partners like yourself.
What do you want to do? Do you want to stay with him? If he is not willing to stop or put the effort in then move on yourself and think of just you. Feel free to ask me anything.
Hiya, hope you are OK. I’m 40 days clean from coke now and I’m trying my hardest to quit. It’s not good seeing your dad like that, I know because I have done it to my kids. I really do hate the stuff and what it does to familys. It’s like having a devil on your shoulder.
Im Struggling today and know I can’t give up and go back how I was. I joined CA 40 days ago and my life has changed for the better and I’m a lot stronger, healthier and happier.
Does your dad want to quit?
He really does need to want to, because otherwise he will just keep using. Most addicts need to hit rock bottom. I’ve had a few. The 1 I had 40days ago was that I just felt down for 4days, suicidal, my heart was pounding none stop with anxiety. I’m only 37, when will it end I thought?.
Cocaine is literally everywhere in the UK now, you would be suprised who takes it. Just don’t ever try it. That’s my advice to any1.
What help has he tried getting? Tell him there are a lot of CA meetings online now through zoom. I go on one every day. I listen to addiction recovery stories on you tube and podcast, I’ve took up meditation and running. I feel so much happier. I just have no confidence in speaking in these meetings and I know it’s a big part of it.
Feel free to ask me anything. Just have a good quiet word with him tell him your worried and there is help out there. I’m sure you already have though, as you wouldn’t be here. But I hope it works out for you.
Hiya hope you are OK. I have a coke addiction and I’m 40days clean today and I’m doing my best to quit.
But I don’t know how needles can help his nose. He’s not a doctor.
I think the obvious thing to do is to check his arms, legs, neck, balls, everywhere.. For pin marks. If he refuses there is your answer.
But if he is not willing or even trying to change. God’s honest truth; move on, and get on with your life. He sounds like he doesn’t do anything at all but think of him self so you start doing it.
Hiya mate. I’m 40 days clean from coke now. I’m feeling a lot happier and healthier now.
I joined CA after my last relapse 40days ago. And got a sponsor and it is helping me so much. But I don’t really speak up on the zoom and I hate stuff like that and apart of me feels like giving up on CA just because of this. But I don’t want get back to how I was before.
Have u done CA?
But other things that you have to do, get a new sim card or delete everyone’s num to do with coke. Even family. Delete all social media, even Facebook, messenger. I listen to cocaine recovery or addiction podcast each day. These help a lot. Mediation helps. Just give it time and get your headphones and listen to some. Set daily goals to keep your self busy with some new hobbies. I’ve took up reading, I started running last week. 1st time in 18year I’ve done running. But I feel a lot fresher.
Just believe in your self. You need to talk to people as well and share your problem. It really does help mate. Avoid going past places you have used. But you really do now need to start changing your usual daily routine around and implement it with new hobbies.
Ask me anything mate always here. I know how you feel and the come downs are hard. Just don’t give up. Do u want my email then we can swap nums and I’ll phone you?
I’m 5 week clean from coke now, and I have joined C A anonymous, but regarding your question. Since I have been in the meetings a lot of people say because they still didn’t work the steps after, 6, 9 month even 2 years it causes them to relapse. I even did it my self after 2 and 3 month. I never did the steps then but I tested myself with a party – stupid decision!. I guess you can tell what happened.
You have to have some sort of programme or strict rules to obey weather its 12 steps or not. Your mind will always play tricks on you and trick you into using.
I don’t agree with you can’t trust recovering addicts, I’ve seen so many videos and read a lot of books and a lot are successful people, even millionaires and they help other addicts. Everyone makes mistakes and can change. But it all boils down to are they really trying, and sticking to their princiciples.
My opinion is if he is giving up on doing his usual stuff that helped him quit, I’d say he more or less will relapse. That’s my opinion though.
Feel free to ask me anything
Hope your OK cath? I guess he just has to want to really quit himself. I’ve never really understood addiction for pain relief but I know they are Highley addictive.
What has he said now you have binned his stash?
Hope your OK cath? I guess he just has to want to really quit himself. I’ve never really understood addiction for pain relief but I know they are Highley addictive.
What has he said now you have binned his stash?
I was actually on the phone before to another C A member and he was telling me about this, so I’m going to start doing this tommorow, thank you ????????
Thanks very much. Been a crap morning to be honest, overthink too much, but I’ve just spoke to some one out of the fellowship and feel a bit better now.
That crap has just drained my confidence and I know it’s my brain tricking me, so I can go and get it. But I’m not going to let that happen.
Thanks for yours and everyone else’s comments they help me a lot ????
Thanks for that, it’s cheered me up, felt a bit shitty today, 5 week tommorow I’ve been clean, so I just need not overthink things, thanks for that ????