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1st he needs to want to quit for himself. And he needs to cut all his using mates off forever now, he sounds really bad if it’s causing him these problems.
Delete all dealers numbers, and friends.
Try your local drug help centre, and there are some you have to pay for. But I think their are some that are free. Not to sure if there is a waiting list. Just give it a Google see what help and advice there is.
He is addicted to, I’ve watched so many videos and spoke to people about this. Even though I don’t have it everyday I’m addicted to it. I always fall back to it. Most people are addicted to something. We all have a coffee or tea a day, and can’t cope with out it lol.
But an expert I watched on a video, said if u have coke for 6 month, even if its once a month your addicted. If he’s having it through the week he must be pretty bad on it, and spends a lot on it. Do you know how much he spends?
Also this is not your fault one bit. It’s all his. We take responsibility for our own actions. So don’t beat yourself up about his comments.
If he’s not contacting you, he’s obviously just getting off his head and probably don’t want you to be going mad at him if he rings you or something, that’s just my opinion. Plus it depends who he’s with. He could just be with mates having fun just ignoring you.
He’s lost the plot if he’s adamant he has not got a problem. Tell him prove it and not have any for a month. And just stay in for a month. Trust me he will use.
Where is he going when he uses in the week?
Hope your OK. With this seriously damaging his help. Personally I think a rehab is best for him. Where he is totally away from the drug for a month or so. Would he do this?
Hiya hope your OK. I’m the same as your bf with a coke problem but it’s once every few week. Or once a week. And I’m trying allsorts to quit. There’s no point in trying to get him help. He needs to admit he has a problem and get the help himself. I’d just sit down and talk to him amicably and tell him he needs help.
There’s a thing called emotional relapse where we overthink things, and cause arguments with our partners, or blame situations for our anger, and this causes us to use. Or basically it’s just an excuse to use. I know people that use for 3 days none stop. It’s a horrible drug, and I want to quit because of the come downs. Basically when it wears off it sends you depressed for days and suicidal thoughts. I’ve known people who have been on this when took their life’s. Sorry to tell u this, but it is the truth. Its all to do with your dopamine in your brain.
There is a lot of things he can do to help him stop. It’s just if he wants to. Feel free to ask me anything
I was gonna say that’s not nice for a sister to say, until u said he robs off his nan. That’s not good at all. Are you sure he’s just on coke? Or is it crack as well? Will your mum or dad not get him out of her house?
Plus if you want him to stop coke he has to want to quit him self, you won’t get anywhere telling him
Hiya Jennifer how have you been?
*him
I’ve never heard of that, but it’s swapping 1 thing for another. I know it’s hard, but leave him to it.
I know I’d rather be with my gf than having crack on her bday, your right. Just try and keep your self busy and not think about.
It sounds like he’s rubbing it in with his success, making he’s out to be the big I am. And he’s trying to make u feel he’s doing well because u dumped him, but I could be wrong.
With the crack, it’s just a slippery slope and really addictive and people waste hundreds and thousands on it.
My opinion is if he’s bad on it, leave him to it and you get on with the rest of your life. Try not to beat yourself up over it. Just think about your self now.
If your not comfortable with it. Don’t do it all. And tell him. What’s his cocaine use though?
I never went on binges like that. Mine is just 1 or 2 bags on a Friday night. I’m just out for a few hours. Or if I go out I’m back at 5am when pubs shut at weekend. But I’d defo miss my kids, my kids always come 1st. My kids get everything they need. But I do feel guilty when I’m putting that shit up my nose when the money could go on my kids. But they get everything they need 1st. The problem is with people who binge for days, they have had up £800 worth on a 3 day binge. The more they have the more they want, its never exactly the same feeling as the 1st, and you just don’t care about anything else. When he’s stopped his binge it sends you really depressed, even for days, overthing to many negative thoughts, I guess then he will be regretting it all
To be honest you do need to think of yourself as that’s what an addict does. If he’s not willing to try and stop and prove to you he’s trying there is no point.
No you should always have time for your kids. His workmates might have it at work. Which is even harder to get away from
If he’s away for days on it he defo needs help. Does he have a good job? Because he must be using a lot if he’s away.
Ye it’s a vicious circle being on cocaine. I know people who are up for days on it. I can’t do that.
Coming down off coke makes you depressed and suicidal. Also there a thing called emotional relapse, were he will start arguments with you are blame some one else for things just as an excuse to get coke. Even though he might not be thinking of it, his brain is tricking him to get it. Then it’s mental then physical relapse, where you have picked the coke up. He needs do an action plan to do things to prevent this.