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Hiya hope your OK. I have a problem with coke and it’s once every few week. Maybe once a week. But I’m doing my best to quit.
People who want to quit need a good support network around them incase they feel like using.
Does he want to quit and has he tried?
I’d sit him down and say you get help, go to the docs, quit drinking and using. Drinking is a main trigger for coke. Go to some meetings and start to change his life around, then say if you don’t do this then I’ll cut you off till you are sorted. If you just cut him off chances are he will just use this as an excuse to use and use. Its entirely up to you what you do, but at least you can say you tried. But the main thing is he needs to admit he has a problem and want to stop himself.
Hope your OK, I’m the same as your husband and I really want to stop doing it. It’s just really hard.
Has he said he wants to stop and get help?
I’m the same as you dazza. But my problem is just once a week or every 2 week. My gf is quite good to be fair with me. God knows why.
But going back to your question, and I really can’t give advice, but just get yourself sorted 1st. That’s what they teach you in recovery. Think of yourself, get yourself clean and everything else falls into place. It might of only been a few week since you used. But thats nothing. You can even tell yourself you won’t use again. But your brain tricks you into using. Just keep showing her things that’s proving you are doing your best. Eg.. Meetings, apps, drug test.
Yes I do about once every 2 week. May be 3 week. Start of the year I was 2 month. It started by just going out pubs and that. But then I stopped going out. But then I was already addicted so it stayed with me. I’ve watched a video we’re if u have it for once a month for 6 month your addicted. You don’t have to be having it everyday to be addicted to it. If you want to educate yourself. Watch a video on you tube. Search Louise Clarke crack cocaine part 1 2 3. This is a great vid and she helps you how to stop. And she’s helped lots of other addicts. I bought her book which is a great read
Ye he could go out and just get it. I tend to lapse on Fridays every few week. So I bought a safe and give my gf my car keys and phone every fri and sat before 4 o’clock to lock it away. It’s just about cutting off as many ways as you can to how you get it. Me personally am trying my best to stop and come up with these ideas. So I guess it comes down to how much he wants it. And you are right, he can just go get it on tick. How often does he use
May be if that effects him try and get some councilling to help.
With the social media like Facebook. It’s easy to get back in. Because you just type your email. I made another email up and password. And changed it all and then deleted. And binned the email written down on paper. As I made it impossible to remember. This is how addicts minds work. We try and work easy way around things to get it. So I plan ways I can’t get around things and make it harder. It’s all about cutting off triggers and ways around of getting it. Tell him to start goin on more walks. Even try meditation. Or the gym. He now needs to put some good activities in his life to keep busy. And healthy food.
It’s normally the case with a bad upbringing and use drugs to block it out. Maybe if that
Why sugary? That would keep him up lol
Plus there are loads of reasons in wanting to stop. Mine are.. My health, my children, my family, my job, it effects your mental health. Depressed for days after using, it stalls future plans. Just try and make him aware of some of these things.
It’s like having an abusive partner and you think there is nothing better and I’m worthless. But there is, and you will find better and you will be a lot happier.
Sometimes I say addiction is a bad routine we are in and it’s like we are stuck. He just needs to have some focus and goals.
I know I can’t say out, I’m lapsing once every 2 week at the mo. But I’m doing my best again now and have set my self some goals.
Stop right away giving him money Kate. He knows you will and will use emotional blackmail on you. Just stop that right away. If he needs some food but him some. But don’t get to the point we’re he spends all his money on coke then expects u buy his food. Tough love is now needed. And ye it is hard.
I’d sit him down and have a conversation with him. No shouting or anything like that, and ask him does he want help to quit. And get some help. But you can’t support him anymore and it’s breaking you.
He really does need to want to admit he has a problem and want the help. Otherwise your flogging a dead horse.
Hiya Kate hope your OK. Can I ask what’s your situation and his now? Does he live with you? Is he using everyday? Does he want to stop? The help is there for him. I know what you are going through because you sound exactly the same as my mum was with me, but I was bad on weed then and I quit that.
No
Your totally right in what you say. I admit my problem and my journey is done by me. Little things like I ask my gf to take my phone and car keys off me Fridays and Saturdays help. As mine is a weekend thing. Also I listen to addiction podcast, read books, go on forums like this. You have to change your life and routine around. Implement it with various activities. I’ve bought myself a guitar and I learn for an hour a day.
You seem like a lovely person and I hope it works out for you and he gets clean. But kids always come 1st and your own health.
Hope your ok. I’m in the same situation as your hubby. But I’m doing my best to quit. He needs to want to quit himself. There is no point in making him, it won’t work.
He needs to delete all dealers numbers. Quit drinking. Come off all social media. Delete every one’s numbers he has it with. And that’s just the start. I guess your in a hard situation. But do what’s best for you. Do you have any kids?
Ye your right. I’m gonna say no. I don’t mean to be rude, but I’ve totally forgot about what your story is. Can I ask again if u don’t mind lol. It’s been that long I’ve been on here. Sorry