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Hiya fiona, I was really bad on weed from about 14 to 19. I’m 36 now and don’t touch the stuff. I literally had it every day for 5 years. I messed my gcses up, and didn’t go school for the last 6 month. I regret it a whole lot, even though I had the best teenage years. I regret having it.
I was a nightmare for my mum and dad. Punching holes in doors and walls at home. And having a bad temper I put it down to being a teenager which part of it is. The anxiety and that with your son is like me, but the weed makes it a load worse, you think it’s better with it – but it’s not.
It makes you really angry if you can’t have it. I could tell you some things I did.. but I’ll be here all day lol.
Mixing weed and being a hormonal kid isn’t a good combination at all.
Now.. this is how I stopped.. firstly I got to the point where I had enough of it. My life was boring, it was bad for my chest. I had a lot of regrets. I could only get a crap wage job. I’m in a great job now though.
Your son must want to stop it before anything. I started to do weights at home and that helped me a lot. Then i wanted to go in the army, and i needed 6 months to be clean. So this was my target, and it worked. But I never got in the army for health reasons. But i was clean from it and happy.
Sometimes we’re just stuck in the same shitty routine day in day out, and your brain gets use to it. So I took up weights and running and felt a lot better and refreshing. Just try and have a quiet talk with him and try and push him in the right direction. He can still turn his life around tell him, and he will regret it like I did.
Everything is hard the 1st time – like college and starting new things, people are afraid of change. But it will get better for him.
Hey Saz. I’m 2 weeks clean from coke today. I’m doing my best to stop – I hate the stuff. Does he want to quit? It will be a lot better if he does.
He needs to delete all dealers numbers and friends. He also needs to take up new hobbies – to keep him busy.
To keep me busy – I do these things; I listen to addiction recovery podcast, gym, read, play with the kids and a few other things. I also watch on you tube – recovery mum, she was an ex coke addict and has some great videos. I’m also reading a lot now which helps me – and I never read before. Feel free to ask me out
What is he using? If you don’t mind me asking?
I take it hes on coke? He sound like it.
Hiya Casey hope your ok. I’ve got a problem with coke. But I’m doing my best to stop – I’m trying everything to stop. I’m 2 weeks free from it.
I know crack is the same as coke, but it’s just a bit more addictive what I’ve heard. I’ve never had it. I wouldn’t want to be around with anyone who has crack just incase they pressured me into having it. Then it is a downward spiral. Are his family mad saying ‘there is nothing to it’.
After that its heroin. I’ve seen it so many times. My opinion is get far away as possible. If he’s doing everything he can to stop it. Well give it a try. But that’s entirely up to you. But having that in the house isn’t good:full stop.
My gp helps me a lot and locks my phone away Friday and Saturday and my car keys – all in a safe, and I get back Sunday. As this is when I tend to use. If I was on crack and using in the house. She would kick me out the 1st time she knew. But it’s up to you what you want to do.
Hows your bf doing danni?
Ive not to sure about this. Would it not be easy for him just get a pipe out and have crack that way? And if hes on heroin.. if he is injecting. You wont able tell unless you look for needle marks on arms and legs or other places.
Did you not try and wake him up? Could he just not of been tired from his breaki?
Hiya khl.. im 36 now but from 14 to 18 or 19 i was having weed litrally everyday. In the end i hated the stuff. It ruined me progressing in school. But ive done good now.
I guess he has to want to stop. I did a calender and ticked each day off i hadnt used and took up the gym and running. That helped me a lot then. With the drinking ive never been a big drinker. I guess he really does need to go to an AA meeting.. its ok for him to say ill have it twice a week, but if he is an alcoholic thats just not going to work.
Try and persuade him to go to a meeting.
I guees least he has admitted it and wants help again. Im the same as your partner and i hate the stuff and i am doing my best to stop. No matter what though now because he is an addict or ex, he is never going to be ok really same with me. So when you went away he probably thought im ok i wont use and hes put himself in a situation were hes gone out with people who use. But i could be wrong.
When did he last use? What is he doing to stop
You should have a local drug help centre. I have a meeting there this month. Its called acheive near me. But this is just in the north west i think. But i could be wrong.
Plus they have meetings to support your bf.
Ye they do.. but there is some 1 i know really close to me i cant say on here who. Ive told them ignore me.. but they dont. But i do my best to avoid them.
Well i use mostly on a fri night after 7.. so she ask for my phone at 5pm. And locks it in a safe i got off ebay. With my car keys.
Sometimes ill lock it away my self as she has a key.
I get text of random dealers now and again when i have just randomly got it off then. But the 2nd they text i reply back.. my mum is having this phone back. Plz dont text it again.. ill save it to my new phone.
But its got to be soon as you read that text, then delete the message and call history. Because the longer its there, the longer u dwell on it.
I asked about the job, and i was right what i was thinking.. that he does some trade job with the lads.. my mates a roofer, he sells it.. he has it at work, they all go for drinks after as well. His mates have it at work as well.
Im not saying he has it at work. Im just saying if your with other lads, and one of them brings it in work or says.. come for a drink and that. Hes gonna. Its all about cutting people off around you who have it. And if his work mates are at it, its gonna be hard. But then again they might not lol.
But its everywere.
No its not bad at all, it means you care.
My kisses would go out and wouldnt care haha. But she just locks my phone away. Ive asked her to stay in with me for a month and just be on my case so i get a month out of the way clean..
It gets easier after a month. But.. you think you are ok after 3 month or 6 month.. and you tell yourself.. 1 little bag wont harm me or beer. But truth is, you never will be.
Drugs and alcohol effect people differently. Some like my gf can just take it when they want and say no when they want. Then there are the others who just keep going and going. Its a disease at the end of the day and some people laugh at that, but it really is.
Im not to sure if i told you. But watch a video on you tube, search louise clarke, part 1 2 3. Shes an expert on crack and cocaine and has helped so many addicts. She goes deep in to it why we get addicted and to beat it. I bought her book as well and it helps. Its worth a watch. Even you watch it if you can so you can get an idea of it all.
Boys are great and well behaved lol. I was good again last night. And let my daughter put make up on me haha.
Hows you and your bf now?
Ive got got 3.. boy 16, girl 9, boy 5. Girls are a pain in the ass haha. What have u got?
Im doing good. Didnt have anything last night. My phone was locked away. I feel soooo fresh and happy lol. It feels so much better the next day not using the night before. God knows why i do it.
Is he drinking everyday then? How was he pissed at 4pm? If u dont mind me asking what job does he do?
Go with him to the docs then. Im sure they gave my mate some medication for his drinking to ease it or stop it. With cocaine theres no medication for it. I guess its even harder saying as alcohol is everywere.
Tell him your going out tonight with a mate and hes got to babysit lol