[danman83]

Hes gaslighting.. ignore the law he is going on about. That does not matter.

Do what georgia says.. and ring the police and they will house you somewere else straight away!

[danman83]

So how often are you having it then mate?

[danman83]

I dont mean to be rude hear, but are you muslim? Only because you keep saying ‘your law’ and im just thinking of sharia law.

[danman83]

Hope you are ok. Dont be ashamed to admit your an addict. This is a major step now in your life to being clean, and it will help you to beat your addiction.

Ive got my own addiction to coke that im trying to beat, and i dont have much knowledge about painkiller addictions. But to help me control mine were im only using once every few week. Ive took up hobbies to keep me occupied, things like reading, gym, decoarating, board games with the kids, walking the dog in forrest with the kids.

Try and do some new activities. Have some goals and believe in your self.

When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself i am just going to stay clean for today, dont worry about the week ahead.

With prescription drugs im not to sure if you have to ween yourself off. So just drop your dose again for a week. Then so on. Then none.

Im so sorry to hear about your mum, dad and brother. This has obviously has effected you and could be why you use. I personally would get some councilling or something like this to help you cope with everything you have been through. Its bad enough losing 1 family member. But to lose 3 must be heartbreaking.

Also there is a good app called pocket rehab. Its basically like a forum for all addicts and ex addicts. It has a wall like facebook, and everyone writes about there addiction. There are alot on with prescription drug addictions aswell. You get good advice off ex addicts aswell. They are great friendly people. There is also a lifeline button, which you press if you are struggling and it puts you through to another addict and they talk to you and help you. I cant reccomend it enough

[danman83]

So whos he in debt with the dealers? How much?

He needs to cut off everyone to do with cocaine. Even his best mates.

Does his parents know his situation?

[danman83]

Bit of a bullshit site! Selling crystal meth and extacy and ketemine!!

[danman83]

Ive been hearing a lot about rehab places this week on videos and books. Ive heard some people have been like 5 times maybe to them before they realised, and i guess the hard work is when you get home. If one of his so called friends come round and offer it him, its not good at all.

Ive always said if my son turns to hard drugs, i woukd still be there for him, and i dont blame you. Id never give up aswell. Just make sure you get enough rest yourself though.

[danman83]

The truth… get rid of them all. You need non using friends. Its plane and simple, if you dont want to use, cut everything off regarding coke, even family members.

Whats more important, keep your mates and maybe relapse then back to a vicious circle.. or that £600 being spent on your kids. In life we have to make sacrifices and no matter what our kids should always come 1st. I know its hard im struggling myself with coke. Not as much as you, but im still an addict and it upsets me when it can be going on my kids aswell.

Were do you think you will be if your gf and kids left? I know what would happen to me.. id be in a flat… getting wrecked every weekend and lead astray. Im so glad my gf has stood by me.

Your right though, delete everything you have to do with coke

[danman83]

It looks like he wont quit till he is ready to and i hope he does. Ive just finished a book called.. walking out the other side.. its by alan charles. He had a coke addiction for 24 years, 11 years clean now. Its just a good inspirational story, and he has a podcast called the alan charles show. We he has different episodes about his addiction, about how it effects familys, this helps me alot. Im just trying to say hopefully he will hit rock bottom and one day come back to his normal self.

Dont worry how you sound, everyone has a story to be told and i enjoy listening. It keeps me sane.

How did it all start this with him if you dont mind me asking? Because its sounds and i can obviously tell he was brought up in a loving home.

[danman83]

I know what your saying and you have got a point. But i just want shut. I got to 3 month once, thought i was ok then i went and got some.

I just want to be how i was before, to be able to go out and not want coke, no anxiety. But 3 month is better than 1 month then having a blow out. My mates say.. its only once a month, everyone has a blow out and that. But ive just had enough.lol

[danman83]

Im not too bad today pal. Im looking at plastering and tiling videos on you tube and looking in to learning this to keep me occupied.

Ive seen prices on some sites for pain killers. Your right they aint cheap.

[danman83]

I feel like dragging your son to rehab myself just to make you happy. This is really effecting you and i could undertstand why. I have a 16year old boy who lives with me. I have done nowt but pressure him about drugs, talk about how my friends have ended up, and he got all above Cs in his gcses. It would break me as well if he ended up on drugs. Because it really is a slippery slope.

Do you not think you could do with talking to someone yourself just to help you get through this. Its just going to eat you up inside. When will the next time you will see him?

Im hear anytime. Dont worry 1 bit about sharing your problems. We all have them.

Were abouts in uk are you from?

[danman83]

Im not into all that. But id just blank it all out. The 12 steps programme, what its called is about praying to a higher being.. it doesnt have to be god. It just helps i guess.

[danman83]

Thats the problem with coke, it makes you lie like mad. Worrying is just going to make you ill. Your only young you need relax. But i guess its easier said than done really

[danman83]

So do you want to come off the codeine then pal? Or are you worried you will go back how you was before them?

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