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Im the same.as your son and i am doing my best to quit coke. Im 36 and have 4 kids and im still with my gf and i have a good job. Im lapsing once a month, i sort of have it under control now. Were im just using once a month. I cant stand the stuff anymore, its a horrible manipulative drug, its like having the devil on your shoulder.
And he is an addict. You dont have to use everyday to be an addict. If you use for 6 month, even if its once a month you become an addict.
The 1st time you have coke you basically plant a seed in your brain… the more you have the seed grows and grows, and becomes a tree, pushing all your confidence and your normal self out the way.. to stop the coke, you need to stop watering the tree ( having more coke). If you watch louise clarke on you tube on crack cocaine part 123 she explains it in great detail and helps alot.
My rock bottom was that i was crying my eyes out coming down off coke feeling suicidal and depressed (this is a major side effect of coke) and i text my mum telling her everything, i was ashamed at 1st but she texts me all the time checking on me and ask if im still doing ok.
I dont know your full situation, but i guess your life still can go on, just keep checking on him. But the main thing is he must want to quit himself! Otherwise nothing will work.
If he wants to quit… he needs to not drink alcohol. This is a big trigger to get coke.
He needs to delete all dealers numbers out his phone, friends who take it, family who take it.
Delete all social media, ive been off fb for 6 week now and feel better.
And he needs to replace his usual routine of drugs and whatever his daily life is, and swap it for new ones. Im doing more sessions in the gym, ive took up reading. Im decorating again this week. Im thinking of teaching myself how to do tiling.
He needs replace the old routine with a new one.
Does he want to quit?
Feel free to ask me anything.
Hi dav.. im 36 now… but when i was 14 i was exactly the same.. and my mum was exactly the same as you. I was really bad on weed at the time. It effected my GCSEs, and its one of my biggest regrets and it still bothers me now. I just messed around in school all the time. My mum was screaming at me all the time, and im ashamed to admit it i put holes in a few doors in our house through anger.
My mum and dad was totally against drugs and both had good jobs. I quit it in the end.
But i had a great time with my mates and great memorys, but i wish i never hung around with any one that did drugs. Thats a major factor.. one bad apple does really spread.
How is he doing in school?
The only things i could suggest is… keep making him aware of the bad side effects.. show him this message were i regret messing my GCSEs up and my career.
He is not really going to stop till hes had enough. I hated the stuff in the end and it made my chest really sore.
I quit it on my own and it was hard, and i wont lie to you it does lead to other drugs.
He could just grow out of it.
Im doing the same lol.. and having a clear out. You to
Get out and do something, its bank holl.. have you out planed?
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Hope your ok mate. I think you just need to think of yourself and try and be happy. 🙂
Haha ok cheers
Ahhh ok.. its just that i think about it now and again, and im worried its not worked lol.. but i dont want it at all. So ill just have to see how i go.
Well the money he spends you could go out for a meal every night lol… tell him just give you the money and put 5 random places in a hat or something, theme park, skiiing, god knows.. something u have always wanted to do. And pick one out a week or month, and do it. So he has something to look foward to. But its easier said than done.
Ive come off face book as well. You get hastled on there aswell for it. To be honest i dont get out with my mates anymore. And i still manage to get it . Why dont he try hypnosis. Mine was £85.. but i dont know how much it will be near you. No harm in trying tho.
Plus hes in a bad routine now of going work and using with mates.. if he was in another job with people who didnt use, he wouldnt be using. I couldnt think of anything worse. But at least he wants to stop and thats a good think. Pocket rehab is a good app to have.. and watch some videos on you tube of louise clarke on crack cocaine part 123 . They will help alot
I need ask you.. when you had your hypnosis.. did you still think about it? Im just worried now it might not work. Because it comes in my head now and again. I dont want it at this moment in time. I guess im just being paranoid maybe
Well if hes on a building site with all lads then i can see why he is having it all the time.
Its all bullshit that.. he needs it to get motivated.. what did he do before he had coke? We make so many excuses why we use and that we need it in our life. Its your brain tricking you.
These tablets help off ebay for drugs cravings they are chinese herbal..jia wei xiao yao wan.. there about 15quid.. could try them. I get them every month.
Do you not drill it in to his head that the money could be going on your 7 month old instead of up his nose. My gf does and it makes me upset, but i guess i need that kick up the ass.
If you could see into the future and know he was still using in 5 years time.. everyday still… would you still stay with him?
What doea he do if you dont mind me asking?
Have you any kids?
Reading isnt my thing and i took it up, its just finding something. The money he is spending he could be spending it on a lot better things.
So what does he do just have it and watch t.v?
Im in same position as your husband. But i am using once a month. And i keep lapsing once a month. Im doing my best to quit. I really cant stand the stuff anymore.
Hes obviosuly got a big problem.
To quit he really needs to want it, hes obviously stuck in a rut and he needs to change his routine around. Ive took up reading and i never read. Im doing more days in the gym. I did metal detecting for a bit but ive gave that up lol. He needs to implement new hobbies in his life to replace the bad ones.
I also listen to cocaine recovery stories on you tube, listen to a few of russell brands stories as he was an addict., i listen to podcast at work to keep my mind off it all.
And yesturday i went to a hypnotist, because ive just had enough of it. Only time will tell if it works.
How much is he spending a week then?
Hey hox… i had a hypnosis session today. It was only one 2 hour session, and thats all ill need. But i need to ask you something about when you had yours.. ill ask when you reply back.. so i know you get this…