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Its sounds like you are not even together.
The thing is when the baby is born and if he still is like this, theres going to be a point when you need him and it will be a lot because ive got 3 kids and its hard work, especially with a baby. Its going to be really hard and upsetting for you if his phone is off or he has done a dissapearing act, and continues to. Imagine if you want him there for the birth and his phone is off.
Plz dont think im being negative or trying to upset you or out. But with you being pregnant just be careful and think of yourself and the baby before anyone else.
Believe me him living on his own he will just get worse and be having it a lot more.
I can imagine what ever you decide its going to be really hard for you, you either stay with him and hope he does stop.. which he really needs to make a lot of sacrifices. Or like you said be on your own and scared. Its not fair on you with being pregnant and the emotions you go through.
All i can suggest if you want to make it work say its either the coke or you and the baby, or at least he puts in the effort that he wants to stop. Or you do it alone. Which believe me it will be hard at 1st. But in the long run. You will be a lot happier. Have you got family to help you?
Theres a thing called triggers.. if you have not heard of it.. he needs to avoid these… say he picks up coke on asda car park.. avoid going past there as it makes him want to get coke.. id sit him down and lay some rules now.and say its making you ill and could effect the baby. If u need out im always here. Good luck
Try watching louise clarke on you tube crack cocaine part 1, 2 3. She is an expert in this and will give you a real great insight to what it does. And how to quit.. there are a lot of sacrifices you have to make, and it is hard as i struggle from time to time. Its the biggest addiction going now in the uk. Your bf is a an addict and he has to admit it. And get help.
I had 8 councilling sessions and i quit for 3 month. Then lapsed. You think you are ok after a couple of month.. but believe me you are not! Cocaine is a sneaky sly drug. That plays mind games on you.. you start arguments, argue with your self in your head just so its an excuse to go get it.
If his behaviour is like this its his brain wanting it.. its like a devil and angel on your shoulder.
I guess you have already said.. do this for the baby.. the money can go on the baby than coke.. but no matter how much he knows this.. coke will win.
My kids get everything they need. But i feel so guilty when i have put that stuff up my nose, instead of spending it on them.
To help me stop. I listen to cocaine recovery stories on podcast and you tube, these help a lot. And ive took up.reading.. i go to the gym.
Hey there.. hope your ok.. im in the same situation as your bf.. long story short… lol
Ive been having coke for 8 to 9 years. Ive got 3 kids and 1 step daughter. And im still with my gf.
I was 1st having it going out.. then started on my own in the house a bit because it stayed with me when i stopped going out.
Im doing my very best to quit as i hate the stuff now. Im having it about once a month. May be longer. I decided enough was enough when it started to make me suicidal and depressed. The come downs off coke are the worst feelings ive ever had. All for the sake of a good hours buzz.
There is a lot your bf can do to stop or cut down.. but he really has to want to quit. He needs to quit alcohol as this is a main trigger to get coke. Stay away from coke friends, family. And change his life totally around. how much is he having and spending?
Hope your ok mate.. my sister is a social worker and works with drug councilors and 1 guy who had a coke problem was an easy jet pilot.. so it does happen to the best of us.
How old are you now then? And im 3 week clean today from coke. Im roughly having it once a month, may be longer.. give or take. I hate the stuff and im doing my very best to stop it.
There is a lot of things that you need to do to stop it, one of the main triggers is alcohol. If i have any, i am on the phone to my mate getting the stuff. So i dont drink anymore. Im in turkey on hol now.. and i am drinking but i have no urge for it here, its probably because i know i cant get it.
But if you really dont want the stuff and drinking is your trigger. You are going to have to quit drinking im afraid. If you go to partys , pubs, bbqs, ect… you can not drink! And dont think you will be ok! Trust me.. you wont be!
You need to change your life around, change the drinking and going out for hobbies, anything you want.. maybe something that you have never done before.
How often do you drink? Coke? And how much coke?
Im always here if u need out btw
Dont be daft mate. Im always on here and i have a coke problem. Theres lots of help on here
Well done! Keep it up! Take some new hobbies up to keep you occupied. Take each day as it comes. And tell yourself each morning.. you are not going to use for today only.. take baby steps. Its not good thinking ill stay clean for a month.. then go from there.
Thats a big loss. He will have to think of another money making scheme lol…
He must love the pants off you to lose that much. But he will be better in the long run.
Tbh i wouldnt want try it over there, it could be anything.
Speak to you when i get back. Have a good weekend 🙂
Insta birchalldanny .. not on fb lol
Friggen hell he was selling it? Lol what a madman, hes defo risking having it there. My mate sells it and hes really bad having it now. Id do it for the money but id know id just have it. Hes done really well to get lapse just twice . And i get all that with the money, he would of got use to having so much and the loss of losing it all each week. But it looks like you won, and hes picked you.. which is great.
Yeee.. im all good thanks, just woke up from my nightshift and going the gym with my lad now. 3 days and counting, ill buy you some perfume for being so helpful haha.. only messing x
Yes im going to drink but im diff when im abroad i dont crave it. But i hope i dont get offered it.
Ye shes been nice this week.. she text me at work last night saying ‘love u’ i said… whats up with you? Haha
Anyway your doing great with him and on here helping people you should be proud of yourself. Hes my email if you ever need me, i gave my number but they deleted it lol EMAIL DELETED have a good weekend x
Hey georgia! Are you ok? Hows the bf doing? Is he back on track now? Hope so x
Thanks
Haha i honestly thought it was you. Nevermind lol
Hey there. Ive been doing coke on and off 8 9 years now. Im having it roughly once a month give or take. I hate the stuff and im doing my best to quit..
But regarding to you question.. my cousin who is 36 has had a stroke.. his cousin has… all caused from coke. Coming down off coke.. it makes you depressed and suicidal.. the is to do with dopamine in the brain if you know what that is? For days you can feel depressed. Then weekend comes and its a vicious circle again. I know a few people that have committed suicide from cocaine. Its a high for 20 minutes and the rest is down hill. Its also not good for your heart and anxiety and paranoia.