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Ive done loads of research and watched videos. This woman i watched on you tube has said if you take it for 6 month only at once a month your addicted to it. And shes an expert. Even if your going out every weekend having it.. your addicted to it. Because you always want it when out.
If your doing it at work i think you need to admit you have an issue lol.
How much are you having and spending a week?
So are you not with him at all now?
Hiya mate. Ive been doing coke for about 8 9 years. Im doing my best to quit.
Im lapsing rougly once a month. But i end up having 3 by the end of the night. And feel depressed and suicidal on the come down. I cant stand the stuff.
No matter what.. you are an addict. Even if its once a week. Your an addict. You dont have to use every day to be one.
Your on about breaking the routine? Do you want to quit altogether? Or just cut down?
Theres no cutting down on coke. When you crave it and the emotional relapse comes in your gonna get it no matter what.
If you want to quit. For a start.. you cant touch alcohol or go pubs and clubs.. alcohol is a main trigger to get coke. You need delete all dealers and mates nums to do with coke. Delete social media. And thats just the start. But it depends if you want to quit it all.
Hox im sure im getting you mixed up with some one else on here lol are you the one who sings? And did music with your hubby? Or is that some one else? Its because everyone has nicknames and i get lost lol
Hiya jess.. from 14 to 18 years old. I was bad on weed. Every day for 4 years. My life was wasted on it. Bad gcses, wrong mates. I wish i could go back to them years and start again. I never bothered with girls. It monged me out too much and nervous and paranoid.
But your not going to get anywere unless your bf wants to stop im afraid. May be tell him just have it 2 or 3 times a week. And have the rest as quality time for you 2.
I really wanted to stop i hated it in the end. And i got a calander and ticked each day off i didnt have it. I lapsed a few times. And i never ever smoked. It was just weed.
But i got there in the end.
New years eve 1999.. the millenium.. i was in my mates getting stoned!! What a waste!! Thats what it does to you. Dont get me.wrong i had some fun memorys. But it ruined my school results. And jobs.
But i work in the bank now and im on good money. It just stops you doing so much and makes you lazy.
Theres nothing up with you at all or your kids. Its clear as day the coke comes 1st. When it gets a hold of you when your having it everyday.. nothing else matters apart from coke im afraid. Im doing my best to stop im using roughly once a month and i hate the stuff. But it sounds like you are best off out of there and away from his family. Just try and stay positive. And dont ever go back.
Bloody hell.. what did he do? Its ok if you cant say.. hows the kids took it?
Your right least he might totally stop now. But u know what them places are like for drugs. Hopefully he keeps his head down.and i bet he only does a year.
Thank you hox.. how is it all going with your ex/partner.. is he still the same? Thanks for being helpful.:)
Dont take this the wrong way plz.. but are you sure you really want to be with him as you have no ties.. and the abuse hes given you. Im no saint and i cant say nothing. But if its making you ill and upset and the amount hes spending. You could do better.
In realsitic goals i mean as in.. if hes lapsing each week.. for 2 weeks on a calender on each day he needs to write a task he can do to focus on and that be his goal in stead of coke. Say gym 5 days aweek. Walk the dog each day, decorate, save x amount of money to take you somewere nice for standing by him.. any thing really thats going to keep him occupied. Or read a book. Ive took up reading and i never ever read books lol.
He needs to not plan too far ahead. When he wakes up he needs to say to him self. He just needs to stay soba/clean for today and thats it.. just baby steps.
Did you not see it on sky news the other day? How the uk has a big cocaine addiction problem. The numbers were frightning.. but i can go in any pub and everyone is doing it! You would be suprised who is..
My sons friends who have just left school all sell it on snapchat! Pictures of coke and how much.. its crazy! But he doesnt really hang around with them?
Can i ask how old is he? And do you have kids?
I can tell your really trying.. but it seems to have took over his life. Your going to get nowere if he isnt willing to put 100 % into quitting. He will lapse. But its apart of recovery.
If i spend 60 quid on it. Im thinking all the next day about i could of bought my kids some clothes and i feel so guilty. Even tho my kids have everything. I just feel guilty.
Maybe tell him the money he is wasting why dont you save for a cruise or something. Something different and good to look.foward to..
And thanks for the help.
Also watch louise clarke on you tube her videos on crack cocaine part 123.. shes an expert and will help you how to beat coke and she teachers things i never knew. I think you should watch it to..
So this basically is what i do to stop..you can hold it in front of me now and id say no way! Get it away from me.. but sometimes when friday comes every 3 or 4 week. I go weak and i hate it..
Your hubby seems to be worse but we are still addicts. He really needs to admit this if he wants to quit. Its ok saying.. yes thats a good idea.. but he isnt really doing it.
Sit him down and ask him now. What does he want to really do regarding coke. Then set him some deadlines.
Well.. ive done loads of research how to stop. And had 8 councilling sessions. You basically have to turn your life around.. i bought a safe for my phone to be locked away at the weekends. I ask my gf to take it off me and lock it away but she doesnt.
You need to do new hobbies.. delete dealers numbers.. delete social media.. dont drink any alcohol what so ever this is a main trigger to get coke. I also have took up reading and read true life addiction stories. I listen to podcast.. the alan charles show is a good one. He was a coke addict for 24 years and is now 11 year clean. Im reading his book now its great!.
I listen to cocaine recovery stories on you tube and podcast. Plus i listen to russell brand as he had a drug addiction.
My gf laughed at me the other day when i said its a disease. She doesnt really help. Not like you have. I feel embarrased talking about it to anyone and feel like ive got no one to go to really. My mum knows and has helped a bit. But..