[danman83]

Well both of you really need want to quit.. if its just you for instance that wants to quit and hes not to sure.. he might able to make you want to get it.. if that makes sence.

If u you want to quit.. u obviously know the trigger is when the kids are away.. so instead of that.. you need to do something totally different . You need to change your routine around.. decorate.. go gym.. cinema.. long walks..

Give some one your car keys when the kids have gone them pick them up the next day.

I feel.guilty about the kids.. but my kids get everything they need.. but i still feel guilty..

I have it on my own or sometimes with others. I cant stand the stuff anymre

[danman83]

8 years.. whats your trigger to go get it? Do you have alcohol then get coke? If u want to stop.. you cant drink anymore..

Are you doing anything to stop? Are you feeling down and suicidal on the come downs?

[danman83]

U alright missy.. .im in the same situation as you. But im doing my best to quit.. im lapsing roughly once a month. Ive had enough of it. How much are u doing? And how often.

[danman83]

Tell him dont give up.. and try someone else.. if hes got work commitments and travel problems. He should undertand. If anything hes putting pressure on him and will make him worse if you ask me. Tell him just find some one else who is understanding.

[danman83]

40k wow.. i cant stand dangerous women like that.. who use bullshit regarding there kids. Its sick.

Pmsl… eggs are drying up! Hahaha…

Your only 26 i wouldnt worry just yet. Id be more bothered about him being 8 year older. Im 35 now. And id get someone preggers straight away. 3 ive had and they got preggers straight away more or less. Or i was set up lol

Would you not try now though? I would say it would make him better. But thats never the case.. and could you imagine his ex if you had 1??? Bet she would be going mental..

But you are right in away.. because depending how you go with your bf… because if you wait till he fully sorts himself that could be a while.. if he lapses again.. then another setback.

Then if you leave and you have find the right person and then have a kid… the clocks ticking lol only messing.

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I hate women that use kids as weapons, but why is she threatning the kids to live with him.. id be happy with that.. but mums always want there kids so thats strange.

But at the end of the day.. i suppose just do what makes you happy, your only young and have no kids.. but like you say you love him and hes only had one lapse in 6 month. Which is amazing. So i personally wouldnt worry.. but its your life and you can only help so much.

[danman83]

Bloody hell. I wasnt expecting that.. im gutted for you, but i bet he feels worse.

Id just tell him, its just a lapse and not a relapse. Its only a relapse when hes back on it again as usual from what ive learned. A lapse is just once. So tell him just get back on track and its just a little blip. If he can get to the rest of the year, its just once in a year hes had it. Which is great. Id just keep reassuring him. So he doesnt have it again any time soon.

Was he on his own when he went getting it? Did he tell you when he was coming down off it?

Me personally i would want my gf say its.. ok dont worry, just get back to what you was doing and get back on track, but she dont, she shouts and shouts lol tells me go shopping, constantly saying we need this..go shop. I

[danman83]

You dream about cheating on your bf? Haha.. sorry to laugh.. but i wasnt expecting that one.. u must want to lol.. only messing 😉

Its my bday on sat. And my mums got me a card.. and she said read it… it was a long one about me being a good dad. And a good son. And she knows about me. And she thinks ive had nowt since new year. When ive lapsed about 5 about. I feel guilty for not telling her, but i dont want to upset her. Shes obv got me that card becuase how well im doing. And i feel abit gutted and let her down.. am waffling on here haha..

Ive told my dealers block my num now. My sons mates sell it at school and ketemine! And they sell it on snapchat! Its mental. Hes total opposite of me as akid. Hea doing really well.

[danman83]

Maybe he needs a rehab.. i dont know the inns and outs… this is just a thought… i dont know if u pay for rehabs and how much they are.. maybe look into them… cancel his home… send him rehab.. the payments you pay for his home.. pay his rehab.. how ever long it takes.. thats only if they are same as his rent.. and when he comes out when he is clean let him live with u till he gets a job.

Thats just a thought. I dont know the inns and outs of what hes like at home and that. But i guess a rehab is better than paying his rent while ge gets wrecked.

I dont know anyone who robs for coke if im being honest.. are you sure hes not on something else aswell, maybe crack aswell? And please dont take that the wrong way, im just be honest with you here.

So where is he now? And how is he feeling?

[danman83]

I know what u mean i barely have and your right, thats what i tell myself.. i litrally have just woke up from my night shift and had a bad dream were i was trying my best to pick up lol i felt gutted when i woke up haha.

33 days and counting lol and thanks georgia xx

[danman83]

Honest they are great.. these stories of people…i mean they have really hit rock bottom… its just makes you aware do i really want to be like that.

[danman83]

Its ok. Just message if u need out.

[danman83]

Sorry to hear about this.. im going through coke problems.. but ive never robbed for it. .does he not work?

I bet its hard worrying about him all the time. I.told my mum and she was heartbroken but she helps me out.

He really does need want to quit tho.. does he want to? He needs cut all the people off around him to do with it.

There is help. He just really needs to want it

[danman83]

Tbh he needs be honest with you how much is he having and then see how big of a problem he really has.

I couldnt have it every day. But every one is different. Listening to recovery stories is helping me a great deal. Russell brand is good to listen to about his heroin addiction.

And my opinion and its just an opinion and ive thought like this.. but he could be thinking the thought of not having coke again.. could be it..

He needs to no his life is better without coke.. hes obv stuck in a rut.. and a shit routine.. tell him do a plan with the kids to do activities with them.. but i dont know how old they are. Tell him the 1st month is a big hurdle.. but it will get better and the cravings will go..

[danman83]

Well im trying my best to quit. I lapse once a month roughly. I genuinly want to quit. I cant stand it. I wish i never took it.

But when the urge takes over it is hard.

I suppose u need to make sure he is putting 100percent in. And not even drinking. Or with anyone that does coke.

Financially.. i have agood job and i work hard. My kids get everything they need. Rent is always paid. Turkey in july with the kids. And what i get cokewise. I can afford but then again, it could go on better things.

What is he doing to quit?

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