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Ye im really good now thanks.. that regarding were you are out and hes saying hes struggling. 1 its really good hes telling you this. Just tell you be home soon and give him something to do to keep him self busy.. tell him tidy up or something and listen to some music.
When my gf is out i feel the same. I think its because were on our own and bored.
But coke will play so many games with you in trying to make you to buy it. Its like a devil and angel on your shoulder.
Personally i wouldnt drink at all.
And if he is lapsing every 2 or 3 week. He needs be aware of this and plan for it coming and do something to keep him busy.
Im listening to alan charles on podcast niw and ive bought his book.. walking out the other side.. he had a coke addiction for 24 years and is now 11 years clean. Tell him just listen to one or buy his book. And read a bit a day. They really help peoples recovery stories.
No worrys. Always here if u need out x
No…but that sounds extreme.. he doesnt have to go 5 nights. Or hes out.. some just do 1 meeting . He might need a new sponsor.
I dont blame you. Stick to it as well mate
Your not buying it are u for him?
Well watch that video and you will know what your talking about. I tell her when im coming down as i feel ashamed what ive done.
It really is horrible stuff and i cant stand it. Theres only one positive about it.. that it makes you feel good for 20 mins.
I can list a 100 negatives. But its this positive thats seems to overule.
Just tell him your there for him.. but you cant help him if hes not honest. Have u got kids?
Hi janette.. hows your partner going now?
Tbh his parents shouldnt do that i wouldnt if it was my son. And its not like hes on heroin robbing off them, or other people.
Its a disease at the end of the day. Theres a woman on you tube you both need to watch her.. shes treated loads of cocaine and crack users.and knows alot about it.
Shes called louise clarke,crack cocaine part 1 2 3. Honestly have a watch. Does your bf go really depressed and suicidal from it?
Do you know about endorphins in the brain?
He probably knows how to stop.. and he sounds a lot like me, doesnt really go out and that. Im lapsing rougly once a month and im doing my best to quit. Tell him do a weekly plan, of day to day things hes not done before, like hobbies or reading or the gym, decorate.. anything set him self some goals.
If for example hes lapsing on the 3rd week.. keep an eye on him half way through week 2. And take his phone off him or something..
I know its hard as you dont know much about it. Sit him down. Tell him your there to help. But you cant help if you dont know the truth. Ask how much and when hes useing.. when? And why?..
It is hard, but if hes getting past when he normally lapses. Its a start.
Well he must be the only person who has alcohol and not want coke. Its the main trigger for it trust me! Why do you think everyone is having it in pubs and clubs and bbqs and partys.
So where did he go?
Right if you want him to quit and he does.. and he really needs to want to..
He needs not to drink. Delete every dealer or mate who has coke. Not go to pubs or clubs as its rife everywere now.
My gf is taking my phone off me friday and saturdays now. Car keys off me.
Ask him how many bags is he having a week? And how much is he spending. Its 30 to 40 quid roughly for a bag. Unless hes buying big amounts.
Yes the meeting are perfect.. and a sponsor is great.. but something has triggered his lapse.
Have you asked him why he got it?
What else is he doing to stop?
Tbh i would tell the hosp straight away. It is better to be safe than sorry
Hiya.. hope your ok.. does your bf want to quit? And hes obviously lapsed going out if hes left you stranded.. and.. alcohol is the main trigger to get coke. So if he is serious about quitting. He really cant drink anymore. Not even 1!
How much is he having and how often?