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Same age as me lol.
Ye that’s true, but coke is rife everywhere, it’s even in little villages. He will still able get it.
All he will need to see is some one selling it and ask them for some.
It will always follow him. The best thing is to cut people off and lead an honest and better life, and go to meetings and make new sober friends. I’ve met some great lads and gone for meals ect and wales together. And I trust them than my own mates. But I guess it’s what he wants to do at the end of the day.
Yes I’m doing my best, and I can’t afford to relapse in my new place all alone. So I’ve got a load of decorating to keep me busy.
Football as in match with the lads including beer? Ye that’s gonna be messy. Lol.
He might buy it for everyone, but I guarantee you if they have it they will buy it themselves too. My problem was in the end I used it on my own in the house secretly, I’m not proud of myself. But my Councillor said because my nights out had stopped I was addicted already, and then when I was staying in I wanted coke.
My cousin was a bad example for me so I deleted his number.
There is a doctor called Dr gabor, you can see his videos on you tube, he has proved that addiction comes from child hood trauma. Can be something big to something little. This is why in CA We work the steps and 1 is resentments we’re we get the past off our chest and tell our sponsor. It’s a bit like counciling and it’s quite freeing and helps.
How old is he if you don’t mind me asking?
Hiya reuth, quite a few things, one I realised I was an addict even though I didn’t use every day once a week to once every few week.
The come downs from it causing bad depression and suicidal thoughts. Spending x amount of money when it could of gone on my kids. The same vicious circle.
Also I started using it without alcohol. And I couldn’t go on a night out without it.
I did councilling and got 3month clean. But I joined CA in Jan and that’s the best thing to beat it. Connecting with other addicts or ex addicts and learn from then how they did it.
I wanted to do it for myself. I hate the stuff but when them thoughts come in to get some it’s hard. That’s why u ring another person up out the meetings and talk and it gets rid of your cravings.
You have to really want to quit if you want to. No 1 can force you to. You can go on at him all day. It won’t work, until he wants to.
You will be surprised who has it, there are doctors on the meetings with coke problems. It’s everywhere and one advice I would give someone. Is to never ever try it!
If he wants to stop he needs to limit the ways he can get it, and do new things in his life. Eat healthy. Cut everyone off who uses. Even family. Delete there nums, or get a new sim card.
Can’t drink alcohol ever again aswell as this is the main trigger to use also.
He needs to turn his life around with good honest values, stay fresh and positive, and meditate, and focus on new hobbies.
Feel free to ask me anything
Ye I get sign up this Thursday. Cannot wait.. Are u from Bolton?
Hiya roo I hope your OK.
So Ive been on coke for 12 years now roughly, and I’ve done my best to stop for years. I tried everything.
But I joined cocaine annonymous in Jan and I got my best clean time of 4 month, then lapsed then 3 month clean. Then a few wobbles and back on 2 week now.
Anyways I won’t go into what he needs to do to quit. I’m just gonna give my opinion on what I think you should do. And if I was you I’d leave now. He won’t ever stop until he admits he has a problem and he’s getting help. He’s dissappearing for days ect.. Using at work did u say?
He would need get a new job tbh to get away from that environment.
And I’m gonna be honest now because I have to live an honest life now. Cocaine and escorts and massage parlours and cheating come hand in hand. I’ve done them. Im not proud. I cheated. It turned me like this. The searches are obv his. Adultwork is the main one most go on. Having come just makes you want get an escort ect.. Its the sneedyness and slyness that coke turns u in to. Its like you get a kick out of it.
It’s turns u into a person you are not. I’d never of done this clean.
So you are 30 in jan and have no kids. My advice get out now and don’t look back. And tell him your worried about him and he needs get help and you can stay around any longer. If he says let’s have a baby that will help him focus.. It won’t I’ve been there.
You need to think of yourself you really do. Go be happy somewere else. My gf kicked me out in May. It was my fault and I get a new flat in 2 week. I wish I never touched this stuff.
But your young and have no ties. Get out while you can and be happy. That’s my advice. It’s your life tho. But do you want to be here in 5 years time? It’s hard splitting up but it will get better and you will find someone that will make u happy. Feel free to ask me anything
Because your not with him, you won’t know the full extent how bad is he or not. And you can’t do much help from x amount of miles away. He’s just gonna have do it for himself, and maybe hit his rock bottom I’m afraid.
I could be wrong but if he’s drinking aswell he could be on it alot more. And he’s in the circle we’re people are at a bar who will always have coke on them. It’s just a hard situation for him to get out of.
Thank you for that.
He is right to a point a lot of other things are addictive. But people don’t rack up £200 a day chocolate bars habits lol, or commit suicide on chocolate or Rob off families ect..
An addict will make every excuse up to use. They could sell ice to an Eskimo lol. So he will talk out of every situation going to do with coke if u question it.
How often do you see him a year?