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Hiya bev im going through a process of quitting coke. Im 6 week clean today.
The drugs will be causing the mental problems if u ask me. Coke makes you depressed and suicidal.
Unless theres something there before he did drugs? Otherwise drugs will make him a lot worse.
And bev he keeps saying its your fault.. ask him.. well lets sit down and try and sort it and talk.. if he says money will.. tell him piss off! Am sorry but your health is more important!
Is it just you 2 in your house? Does he work? Does he want to quit?
I just hope he gets in touch soon its not good on your health.
Decoratings stopped this weekend.. i hurt my hand but ill be back on it this weekend coming.
In the mean time im reading. Never in my life i have been enticed into something. Im loving it. Stephen kings revival its called. Im loving it
Do you recan his gf is controlling him?? Is she still pregnant?
Its all so strange aint it?
How can he go from being close to this.Something must of happened. I hope you find out..
May be tell is mates and ask them to check on him.but thats up to you. It is strange. Have you always been close or not?
I always say this in these situations. Your in a real hard situation.. hes your son.. there no greater love than the love for your child.
And from what you have said hes making your life hell. No son should make you that scared you have to lock yourself in the room. He should be protecting you if anything.
Does he want to quit the drugs?
Your asking how can you support him?
I really dont know in these situations.
Some people say. Leave him to it.. he will have to learn for himself.. then if anythimg happens you will blame yourself.
Or u can let him back and say. No drugs you sort your self and thats it or your on the streets again.. which you probably know he will be the same again.
Id probably support him.. by making sure his staying somewere or got warm clothes. And buy some food for him..dont give him money.
What do you want to do?
Is he your only child?
Good luck alan. I hope it all goes well for you both
Ye its a strange one…
Have you not tried.. may be a cousin of his, if he has any close ones? Or a mate who you can have a word with him secretly to see if hes ok? And dont say that you have sent him.
Do you know what alan.. i dont know you. But i wish you was my dad. Lol
The support you are giving him.. the sitting down chatting about it and joining the gym together. I cant fault you. You should be proud of your self.
Just keep making him be aware and to cut down on it. At least just have it fridays to chill out say.
But get to the gym. Its perfect. Try and do something with him at weekends instead of his mates.
Its coke he wants to stay away from aswell. Im 6 weeks clean from that. Tell him avoid it at all cost and other things.
But going back to my dad, he just screamed his head of at me. And make me really edgy all the time and scared me.
So your doing the right thing.
Another thing i wanted to say, but my best friends sister. Who i have known all my life. Shes 39 and got diagnosed
With stage 4 lung cancer and kidney and bone in december. Shes been smoking weed everyday for years. And probably wont make it till xmas. And she has 3 young kids. Ita heartbreaking. But the smoking weed everyday could be what caused it??
Are u sure hes doing all this for cannabis? There sounds abit more to it to me
May be, i like helping people tbh, in anything really.
But i cant start thinking that far ahead,
While im only 6 week off coke. But i thought about it this week.
So whats the situation now DNAon?
Has he been in touch since the last text i forgot to ask? Is he still using?
Well a joiners a great job.. and least hes not a bum..
It depends which way you look at it now. And you might not agree with me. And also you might.
Some of my mates who are 40 still smoke week everyday. They have great jobs. Some there own business.
They are great lads. Dont fight. Or cause any crap.
Now alcohol.. how many people are in town on a night out beating each other to a pulp.
Im not saying weed is ok. But alcohol is as bad in my eyes.. maybe worse.. its a big debate really.
But if i was him, id stop ,it dont do you any favours as you have it every day..
Why dont he just have it at weekends or summat. Just to relax at the end of the week.
The sweats and that will go away eventually. It will take about amonth.
And it is good in medical purposes thats a fact.
But hes smoking it, which is not good on his lungs. And mental state.
If he has it everyday he will end up with mental issues.. i was a phycho when i couldnt get hold of it when i was younger.
Have you tried bringing the army up again?
Because of my past ive put pressure on my 15 year old lad not to do drugs. And i can 99% say he doesnt.
His mates sell weed and coke and all do ketemine!
But he doesnt go out with them. He just stays in on his xbox. Which i dont like but its better than drugs.
And my gf his step mum goes mad about him being on it . But she says she would rather him be outside doing drugs!! Than on his xbox.. shes on another planet!
But if his mates do it . He needs to change his mates.
Hi alan..im 35.. i did cannabis when i was about 14 to 19. I was very addicted. Everyday i had it for 4 years i counted.. i thought it was clever at the time i was having it everyday.
I got stoned in school. And my GCSEs suffered for this. All Fs.
I made my mum n dads life a bit stressfull you could say. I had a bit of a temper.
Now this is what i did to stop.
I really wanted to stop. It made my chest really bad and i didnt go anywere just got stoned in my mates never had a gf at the time.
I found it very hard to stop. I started with a calender taking each day as it comes. Crossing 1 day off at a time i had not had it. I did a few days were i had stopped. Which was good
But it wasnt enough. So i decided why not go in the army.. you get drug tested.. so id have to quit before my drug test in 6 month.. and getting fit and running helped me stop. I was 6 month clean.
And i had my army test, i didnt get in for certain reasons.
But i was a changed man. And i was clean from it. I think i was just trying to get in the army to get me off it.
But what ive learned to quit drugs mainley is.
You have to want to quit.
You have to set goals.
You have to change your routine/life around.
I hope this helps alan