[danman83]

Hi popples, im in the same situation as your bf.. but ive been with my gf for 10 years and have 4 kids together.. 1 step kid of each..

At 1st i was going to disagree with these lovely ladies above lol

But tbh they are right! You have no ties with him! No children with him.. and yo dont live with him.. so you dont need that burden.

So no matter how much it hurts. Id move on.. plus the next guy you meet.. make him fill in a questionnaire..with this 1st 2 questions… 1. Do you do coke..2. I want to see what my future mother in law is like 1st haha

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Hahha funny u bev! Run like the wind hahah

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Thanks georgia 🙂 but dont mention ive heard it all before like my gf did lol it made me want to get more and it pissed me off her saying it lol but thats up 2 u!

Fair play to him.. hes admitted it and doing the right thing..when was the last time he had it? X

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Am good thanks. Am getting to the point now were im thinking.. am i ever gonna be able to go out again without drinking 🙁 i never really went out much anyway.. but when my gf does and im stuck in the house 🙁 i think its just my mind playing tricks on me wanting that shit.. but im trying my best blank it out lol

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Believe me every time i told my gf i got it.. i said just 1! Really it was 2 or 3! I feel like i should tell her but i cant.

And come to think of it. My mate back of me, he cant remember anything at all and hes bad on coke.. and shes a girl lol

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Thats what ive learned watching this expert on you tube.. your bf needs to treat coke as an abusive partner.. keep telling himself its over, and the cravings come, and he tells him self its over,, you treat my kids like shit! Go away..

I know it sounds bull shit, but it helps..

Is he having it through the week?

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I thought that lol and thanks mate, i really appreciate it! Hows your bf done this weekend?

[danman83]

Hey mate.. im in exactly same situation as you! Im clean from coke now for 5 week. And its working what im doing.

Ill tell you my story 1st mate, and then what im doing to fix this.

It started 8 year ago.. i always said id never touch coke.. yet i did. I had it going out everytime, then i stopped going out.. because i had it going out, it stayed with me staying in! So for the last 5 year say.. id been having it once every couple.of week..mainly on a friday after ive had a drink.some times once a week. I never thought i had a problem tbh.. then 2 year i admitted i did. And had 8 councilling sessions and stopped for 3 month.. i thought i was ok then, got pissed and back addicted.

This new year was the last straw for me. Coming down off it, is the worse thing ever! It sends me suicidal and depressed. I was crying one morn off my head. And text my mum for help

Ive been having it in the house on my own! Pretty sad really. But id get one.. by the end of the night be 3 or 4.. in bed all day next day. Feeling down all week at work. Ive got 4 kids. Ive got a good job. Good standard. My kids are well behaved. And this shit ruins familys.

Now this is how im fixing it. And its working. Trust me you 100 % need to do the most of these, if u really want to quit!

1. Admit you have a problem, you are addicted, and want help.

2. Delete every one out of your phone book to do with coke, stay away from them, spend time with the family instead, delete facebook!.

3. Start some hobbies, reading ,gym ,walking, decorating. Ect.ect.

4. Buy some books on coke addiction, watch some videos on you tube about peoples addiction. It helps.

5. Ask for help.no matter what you need it. Dont be ashamed.

Thats just a few, but other things ive done mate.. is you tube louise clark crack-cocaine part 123.. shes an expert and studied addiction since 1991.. she knows a lot of stuff and it will help you! Ive bought her books its great. I can send it you if you want?.

But if you want to stop its hard.. you have to make sacrifices. But i feel a lot better and fresher..

What ive learned.. if u have had coke for 6 month, weather its only once a month for 6 month.. your addicted.

You need to look up, emotional, mental and physical relapse. If you read this you can prevent having it..and the main thing for me

Is dont take take any alcohol! It triggers cravings so much! Just ask mate if u need out.

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Cheers mate ????

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Yes! I feel so much happier, and fresh.

No saturday come down lol. I wake up saturday about 3am. Because of my routine on my night shift. And i just read my book for 2 hours.

Weve all took the dog out for a big walk today. Life is great.

But ive been here before, and relapsed.. i just need not to drink alcohol anymore. And i should be fine????????

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Hey hox.. going to forgeting things and that, its a.. it might because of the coke, because i cant remember a few things in the past, but then you will never know, because you dont know if he would be the same if he was clean all them years.

And it does sound like its a wake up call.. how old is he?

Last month my best mates sister whos 39.. got diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, its spread to her kidney, bones, and she keeps needing fluid drained off her heart.

She has 3 kids including a 4 year old girl.

And she wont make it till xmas. She smokes alot of cannibis, so this could of caused it. But we will never know.

So this could be a wake up call for him. It takes its toll on your heart cocaine. My cousin has had a stroke from it at 35 the other month..and his cousin had 1 at 36 last year. Sorry for the negativity lol

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Yep thats way to far lol. Im just going to spend some time with my kids and relax and maybe read..

I was just thinkin he might leave england and start a fresh, but i dnt think its that at all now. Have a good sunday x

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I class 30 as being old lol im 36 ????????

Heres my num if im allowed to join this group haha

07568503152

[danman83]

Really sorry to hear this laura.. hope you are ok. You dont deserve this at all

Ive been having cocaine for about 8 years now. I last touched it new years eve. So i am 5 week clean. My gf enough new years eve and said its either coke or i lose her and the kids.

Ive only been having it once a month. And may be once a week. And 2 week. It varys. Never did i have it through the week. But i never thought i was an addict

I have found out i am. If you take for.6 month, your an addict. Its got you. Ive admited that now..and i so much want to quit. Its no fun.. it sends me really depressed and suicidal. I have it in the house on my own a lot. But its only after alcohol. Alcohol makes u want coke a lot more! I wish i never touched the shit.

Anyway… this is what ive done to stay off it and helps such.

1.he has to admit defeat, and admit he has a cocaine problem

2. He needs to delete every mate to do with cocaine and dealer out his phone.

3. Do not drink any alcohol at all.

4. Stay away from trigger points. I.e- places were u picked drug up, places were you used.

5. Change his life around or his routine.

Ive took up reading, and i never read! And now im loving it. Its up to him what he chooses. Gym, make something, decorate, paint. Do gamea with kids, walking.

6. Ask for help.

I can go on all day. And ive got more to say. But its working for me. But he himseld needs to admit defeat and admit he wants help. Otherwise hes just gonna not be arsed and relapse.

How often is he using? Does he have alcohol when hes using?

Theres a great app called pocket rehab. Tell him to down load it.. its were addicts support and talk to each other its great, also he needs to watch afew videos by louise clarke on you tube on crack-cocaine part 123. She knows her stuff and helps people to quit.

Just ask me anything you want laura. I hope your ok. It effects everyone. And my gf is the same.

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Onwards and upwards now ✊

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