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Id read it now, then u know how the cocaine is working. Ive got it, and she goes in to great detail. It will give you a better understanding of it all. And its just not your sons fault. Its the drug, its a disease as well. It manipulates you in to getting it
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Really sorry to hear about this, my cocaine habbit started 8 years a go roughly, mainly going out. Then i stopped going out and did it on my own in the house. Ive not had it since new years eve. And im doing everything possible to not have it again.
I understand how hard it is for you i told my mum about my problem 6 month ago asking for her help and she was crying at one point, saying a mum should not buy there child before they die. I felt guilty and horrible.
The amount of stress ive put on my gf is not good but shes stuck by me and we have 4 well mannered children.
From what you have said, this is my opinion so dont take it as im right, just a few things.. if hes asking for help then next min hes ignoring you again. He must be getting coked up again. Then blanking you. Hes obviously missing his kids when hes coming down off coke. Plus you said his gf gives little info.. she might be having it aswell? Because she should be helping him. Ive bought that louise clarkes book and its great.
Your son has to want to quit this. Its a discusting drug, i wish i never started it.
Do you live near him? Can you not go round and speak to him and just have say a talk with you and your husband and him. Tell him you are there for him, and his kids want there dad back.
He will need a lot of support. He needs cut everyone off from coke. It sounds like he had a lot going for him, job and mortgage, children. But you really do need see him in person if you can.
And like you said the money is not the problem your right. He needs to admit he has a problem, get help. And just sort himself 1st, not to worry about anyone else. Then the rest will fall in to place.
But he really needs to want this. I do, and im scared everyday of messing up.
Its hard but i risk losing my kids and gf next time. If you need anything just ask.
Thanks bluebell. Its getting harder. I keep thinking about it now and again. But i have to blank it out.
Does your bf have a coke problem aswell
Ye your prob right about my gf. I have caused her a lot of grief and shes stuck by me
Mine was drinking beer in the house.. next min i could get it dropped off in 5 min. So i dont drink in the house. In fact ive quit drinking now till turkey in july. Then i wont have it again when im back.
Ill tell you how it works from that louise clarke. Scientifically… might be long this lol.
We have a part in our brain called HYPTHALAMUS.. it governs all our drives, that is drive to eat drink and have sex. It also tells us when to stop wanting things. When we have had enough.
But cocaine goes to this bit and adds itself to the needs.. the other needs are natural, coke is not!but nature did not anticipate the arrival of coke… so there is no creation part for stop! Hence why we keep having more..
Another way of looking at it. The minute you take coke for the 1st time.. u have planted a seed! Each time you take coke, your watering it, it becomes a tree, suffocating your brain were your self esteem is getting crushed.
How do you fix it? Kill the tree.. stop watering it! Dont take any more. Your self esteem grows bigger, and then its back to a seed. But the seed will always be there. Usually 2 year mark is the best to be away from it permanently.
But the seed will always be there.
Sorry for going on lol
I wouldnt mention anything on a come down, he knows what hes done wrong ,
and all that will be going through his head is regretting it ,and depression.
But when hes ok he should be accepting any advice going if he wants quit? U not think? .
You know what tho, you are doing what i want my gf should be doing with me.
She dont even go on about it to me. If i went to buy beer she would say dont or no your not!. But she never says your doing good, or ive found this for you.
She shouts at me a lot in general. For nothing! She dont talk to me really. No emotion or sex anymre haha sorry for that. And its not because of me. Shes just a phycho with a temper. Some times i think she wants me fuk up.
Any way for the cravings. I go over in my head, its over with you two now, its a bad relationship. Would your kids want to see you dead. I go back to when ive been crying on my tod from that stuff, and think do i want to be like that.
Plus that councillor louise clarke recommends these chinese herbal tablets for cravings. Addicts shes treated have used them and they helped. Ive just bought them off ebay
2 boxes off 200 tabs for 12 quid. 10 tabs everytime u get cravings , there only little balls. The tabs are called
Jia wei xia oyao wan.
Plus what your bf has learned might not be the best method for him., when ive watched that louise clarke and reading her book. She explains it better.
I wont go in to detail haha. But hes young , he can stop. Just keep an eye on him.
It happens to the best of us.. has he downloaded that pocket rehab app? Its good you know. That woman off you tube has a book on ebay. About crack cocaine and how to stop. Its only 100 pages. Its great and helps alot. Its only about 7quid.
Ye am doing good thanks, 22 days today. Still reading my books. Ive got about 5 now lol. Still listening to cocaine recovery stories on you tube. And believe me some of there stories are a lot worse. And they have beat crack. So your bf can stop.
Hows he getting on? When was last time he had it? Whats he doing now to stop?
Im ashamed to admit thats were i did most of my using. I hate myself for doing it. Ive imagined my gf doing it on her own down stairs while im in bed. Id be embarrassed. But recently we went out alot over xmas and thats when i decided i cant do it anymore.
I use sit down stairs on my own crying on a come down. Texting my mum for help. And i use check the floor for bits of coke in case it came in contact with kids. Its discusting what i was doing. Been 22 days now. And i dont want to touch that stuff again. Ive even come off facebook. That dont help being on there. Seeing everyone happy with there fake lifes, well some, and it annoys you. Well it did me haa