[danman83]

I know I can’t wait, this shared accom we’re I am now is just full of brand new wooden floor for the flat, and decorating stuff I just want get out of here and start a fresh.

I know your right I just listen to positive videos on you tube they help alot.

Thanks for your help.

Have a good weekend to x

[danman83]

I know I can’t wait, this shared accom we’re I am now is just full of brand new wooden floor for the flat, and decorating stuff I just want get out of here and start a fresh.

I know your right I just listen to positive videos on you tube they help alot.

Thanks for your help.

Have a good weekend to x

[danman83]

Hey there hope you are OK.

I’ve been addicted to coke for 12 year. And I’ve been doing my very best to stop for years. I tried everything, self will, hypnosis, councilling ect.

Some of it did work but only for a few week or. Month. I’ve never used every day, it was once a week or few week or even month. You don’t have to use every day to be an addict. Your partner is clearly an addict.

Basically when you are addicted to coke you have triggers, this is things like places and faces that remind you of cocaine and make you want to use.. So.. If I use to pick my cocaine up at asda car park, this is a trigger. So if I ever drive past asda it will make me want to buy coke as I have picked coke up there.

Another main trigger is and this is the main one, alcohol.. People who drink soon want cocaine, I can have 1 pint and that’s it, I’m ringing the dealer. This is for most coke users. So him working in a bar. Big massive trigger. He could be on it everyday if he’s drinking.

Him wanting to need it for sex ect.. Is just the addict in him making excuses to use. He was alright before he ever had coke I guess. So it’s his brain tricking him.

There is so much to talk about it but this is the basics.

When the coke wears off its called a comedown, and this makes u feel depressed and suicidal for days. And its a vicious circle.

My friend committed suicide on a comedown this year. It drains the life out of people.

Anyway.. To stop.. He needs to want to stop for himself, u can’t tell him to, he needs to more or less hit his rock bottom, or just had enough of it. That’s the 1st thing. I joined cocaine anonymous in Jan, I got my best clean time 4 month, then used then 3 month. Then a few bumps and back on 10 days. He needs to work the 12 steps, and get a sponsor and do meetings, they are on zoom as well.

He has to quit alcohol for the rest of his life if he doesn’t want to use.

Cut all ties off with people that use, get a new num, and I think not work In a bar. Hope this. Helps.

I probably have left things out but feel free to ask me anything

[danman83]

I got 4 month clean this year and 3 month, and you literally feel so much happier. I compare it to being a school kid and it’s Friday night, the excitement thats how my life felt being clean for 3months.

You get your life back. Its just staying there that’s the problem.

It makes you feel so depressed on that crap and miserable, it’s just getting that 1st month out the way. And it does get a bit easier

[danman83]

I’m doing great thanks and thank you so much. I’ve gone religous now lol I get on my knees every morning and pray. And I listen to God motivational speeches on you tube.

I should get my flat in 2 week. So I’m just looking foward to getting my head into doing it up.

I’m glad your son is doing well he’s in the best place he can be.

Hope you are doing well. Thank you ❤️

[danman83]

Well he never will get better unless he admits it.

Well I’m always here if you want to tell it, but that’s up to you.

Don’t take the crap off him if it’s his fault. You need think of your self really. But I don’t know the ins and outs lol

Your right it is sad. It effects everyone.

Thanks

[danman83]

Thank you so much it’s means alot what you have just said. I’ve screen shot it as a bit of motivation lol.

How is your partner doing?

Thank you ????

[danman83]

Ye it’s a huge trigger. And it’s because everytime you have been on a date with a new women or a partner. More or less you have had a drink, and some people think I need a drink, for confidence, to last longer lol ect… But these thought make u want to drink ect.. So that’s why its ideal not to.

That’s great news, from what you have told me about him, he’s doing great, I’m happy for him and you.

He just needs to be really strict when he back and stick to a routine.

Plus it helps you aswell. It effects family and friends so much. Anyways I got the weekend out the way now 1 week clean lol.

[danman83]

Hiya, it’s a long story, different things caused me to relapse, I hadnt took my anti deprresents for 2 week and when I did last Friday, I felt off my head as I had not been taking them daily and this caused me to get some. I just seem to want everything now, get bored easily and I rush everything in my life, so I’m just going to relax now and take my time. I’ve started to do a diary now, we’re each night I will do a gratitude list and what I did today and what I could of done better. Just to keep me occupied.

I do a weekly diary sometimes. We’re each day I have task on. And tick it off each day. Tell him to set some goals. It can be anything.

Like decorate the bathroom, gym each day, walk 3 mile a day listening to his favourite music. If you have children, he can spend and hour each night playing board games. Just things like this keeps us busy. And tick it off each day.

Also listen to morning guided meditation on you tube to clear his mind. And this helps so much.

He can also go to the driving range playing golf, nice big walks. It’s hard at 1st but once he gets going he will love it.

Saunas are great for cleaning toxins and drugs out the system.

[danman83]

Thanks mate ????

That’s great news, I bet he’s feeling so much better now and happier.

How is he feeling?

[danman83]

Thats what i struggle with now a bit not being with a woman, and then I went on dating sites and dated a few people. But it’s swapping 1 addiction for another so I’ve deleted all my apps and I’m just going to focus on me. Everything else will fall in to place. Same with your son, he will find some one eventually, everything happens for a reason.

Ye I’m really looking foward to decorating, I’ve bought a lot of stuff already I just need move in now. And Xmas is gonna be different this year but I need to realise its me that’s done this and have it as a positive way of staying clean.

That made me smile lol

Ye you are like my aunties haha but without the nagging haha, I really appreciate it ????

Thanks x

[danman83]

Thanks ????

[danman83]

Hiya deb.

It’s the best thing to do and get a sponsor, I’ve just got rid of mine. Was all my fault, but I just want someone else. I struggle going to the face to face as I don’t like sharing, but I’m gonna have to go to more.

Thanks deb

[danman83]

That’s good to hear, wish I was 4 month again. I felt so much better..

I got another sponsor but then we parted ways.

Least you don’t have to worry as much. It’s really good news that ????

[danman83]

Hiya, good to hear from you. Thanks for that, I’ve just been getting fed up in this shared accom we’re I am, but I get my 2 bed flat next month, so that will keep me busy till Xmas decorating.

How is your son doing anyway?

Thank you so much ❤️

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