[danman83]

Its exactly same what ive been doing. Im not defending him, but it is hard and i have not had it since new year. Big thing is hes admitted it now. He needs to learn about emotion, and mental and physical relapse now. To avoid it.. and make him watch the 1st part of louise clarke on cocaine on you tube. He will realise then hes an addict. If you need any help just ask ive learned a lot how to quit.. its just sticking to it.. and my opinion your doing right thing staying and helping him out.. if my gf kicked ne out now, id get a flat, i work hard aswell, and ill be getting coke every weekend. Then coming down on my own in flat all by myself. God know what id do. Am so gratefull my gf helps me. Just be on his case and keep telling him be positive.. theres an app called pocket rehab.. its were people have all sorts of addictions and its like a chat room and you all help each other out its great.and tell him dont be ashamed of downloading it. Up 2 u tho.

[danman83]

Ye i get you. But some are alot worse than me and stop after a few year. So i wouldnt worry about that.. have you ever said to him its either coke or me?

[danman83]

What do you mean havent even started?

[danman83]

Make sure you do and make sure you show him your happy and enjoying life.

And go out with your mates for drinks and meals. Im guilty as sin wasting money. But my kids have got everything they needed. But that money could of gone on my kids . So its not good at all. Get youself a new outfit and get in town with a mate this weekend!

[danman83]

If you are not yourself.. forget him you have tried your best.. he doesnt want to get help..so go let your hair down go out with your mates.. treat your self to a spa or some nice clothes.. hes putting the money up his nose. So u need something to make you happy. He will soon realise

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Sorry about that mate..but its a wednesday night. What the hell is he getting it on wed for.. mines just weekend really. And i admit i have a problem. But tonight , he must be bad am afraid to say. Has he been pub or out? Or has he just got some and having it in the house??

[danman83]

Different things really.. the suicidal thoughts, crying coming down off coke.

I messaged my mum about 5am 1 morning coming down, crying and texting her telling her everything asking for help. I felt ashamed and a bad dad even tho i do everything for my kids.

At 1st for a few years i never really felt down after it. But then 1 year it made me suiciadal everytime i had it. I was walking my dog 1 day. And was crying on a field to my self. And i was going new york the next day.. i was clean that day. And i thought i shouldnt be like this. And went to the docs. Its made me depressed now i think. Plus when i look back id been doing it for 8 years on and off. If thats not a problem.. what is lol

[danman83]

Are you ok? Do you want to talk?

[danman83]

Sorry about my typing im from bolton and type how we speak and miss out certain words lol

[danman83]

I dont know many people that just do cocaine only, unless they sell it. Not saying he does thats just people i know.

Wheres he going tho to people offer it to him? Thats what thing you cant do go places were it is or you have picked up from, like car park on asda.. they are called trigger points.. so you avoid certain places so you dont remember picking up and then you want some.

I take it your only 26? Have you any kids? Or own own a house together?

Them come downs are the worse thing ever. And its only our fault no one elses. My mums on edge now after i asked her for help. And shes texing me all the time which is great. My gf says just stop dan its not hard. Sometimes i think she wants me to fuk up. But im doing this for me and no one else. I think personnally you need to give him an ultimatum , you get help.. you dont go out of the house to were u bump in to people, u delete every dick out of your phone associated with coke. And you change your life and routine. In the long run he will feel great. But u have take each day as it comes. Were abouts are you from?

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Ill defo have a look at him..thanks.. and thats exactly what i do.. i go bed and tell her am sorry ive done that again.. then im in bed trying to sleep, when i no i cant! And my head has a million thoughts going through it.. nothing positive all negative.. then i feel like crying.. and its that again…why have i had it again?? Ive accepted its an addiction now. Them 12 step groups are suppose to be good.. but my opinion i dont think you just need a councillor. I had 1 when i went to get help.. 8 sessions i had it was ok. I stopped for 3 month.. then i thought i was ok and bam.. got 1 watching boxing on a night out … i hate to admit it, but now no matter how long its been. I cant drink again really. As i will get that. Ive just bought russell brands book on addiction and he has some good videos on you tube.

Tell him on the 3rd week or 4th.. hes not going out and you want spend time with him. To take his mind of it. So does he have it with out having alcohol then??

[danman83]

Soryy not hanna .. hi georgia.. thats for georgia that message

[danman83]

Hi hannah, well my story is a bit simular.. 10 years ago.. i use go out and i started having coke even tho i never said i would. Then i stopped going out and the habbit or addiction stayed with me.and im ashamed to say i was doing it on my own in the once.. it wasnt every day or every weekend. Once a month. May be once every 2 or 3 week. But this new year was the last straw for my gf. I will lose her and my kids

So ive not had out since. And im doing everything possible to stop. Even if you do it once a month it is an addiction! From what i have learned.. you need to you tube louise clarke crack/cocaine.. shes an expert in it all and you will learn a lot from her and how to stop.. there is part 1 2 and 3 videos on it. I tend to relapse on 3rd and 4th week. So u and him need to be prepared and try and stop it before. Its called emotion relapse.. he could cause an argument out of thin air not knowing it, but its his brain wanting it, and then thinks fuk it, am going getting smashed. Its like a battle in your head , a little devil and a angel. Saying get it! Dont get it! I hate the stuff and when its wearing off i feel suicidal, sometimes i cry as well on my own. Quite sad really and ive got everything i want. Good job. House. Partner. Kids. So i more determined to quit now. Ive learned a lot of things how to. And ive bought 4 books this week lol to keep me busy. Ive never read books ever! And ive bought chinese herbs for the cravings

[danman83]

Hannah am going through cocaine use. Not had it for 14 days. Ask me anything or talk about anything u want.

[danman83]

Well thats what ive learned off that you tube video.. u have to treat your addiction as a partnership. And its like some violent partner and you have to leave it. And keep telling your self i dont want it again or him again.. its all mentally. I really do hope u sort it. Be a shame to lose 14 good years. It looks like something bad will have to happen before he stops.

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