[deborah]

HI. I’ve just discovered my son has been hiding a cocaine addiction too. He came to me a month ago, just completely broken and said he’d been so stupid and got mixed up and now can’t get out of it because he’s addicted. I paid off the dealer and he promised no more. A few days ago the same thing happened. I’ve got him help and he has his first ‘meeting’ this week, though it is by phone because of covid. I realise he can’t just stop, but I don’t know what to do about him racking up debt. I have no more money and I’ve told him. The lies are horrific. I catch him out every single day. He’s begged me not to tell his dad and I know once his dad finds out he will wash his hands of him (we are divorced). Like you, I know the lies are because of the addiction, but it’s heartbreaking.

[deborah]

Thank you for your message. Good to know others are going through this too. How do you cope? My beautiful, happy boy has gone and in his place is a starving creature who lies and lies, yet comes here and sobs and sobs in my arms. My heart is breaking. He’s going to lose everything. He’s racking up debt. I’ve bailed him a couple of times but I’ve told him no more. I’m out of my mind with worry.

[deborah]

Thank you for your lovely message. I’ve spoken to the team in my town, and my boy came and spoke to them too. All on the phone obviously at the moment – not sure how effective that will be. He wants help and is speaking to a counsellor on Thursday, but at the moment he can’t see his way out because he can’t imagine anything can make him feel as happy as cocaine. It breaks my heart. He is getting the stuff on tic which terrifies the life out of me. I’ve bailed him out for 2 months now because I can’t bear the thought of him getting hurt, but I’ve told him no more, it’s his choice now.

How are you getting on?

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