[deemarie]

Hi there . I am sorry you going through this .I am also going through the same , my son is 30, my only child and I have nightmares every night about him with worries .

My son was a show off but one of the sweetest kindest handsome lads you could ever meet. He also very clever and a plumber who has lost his job over and over. He got involved with some rather nasty people.

He started with those legal highs at a young age, then cannabis and now just over 2years ago was introduced to crack cocaine and i suspect herion and now is addicted, my heart is broken as i cant do any more to help him . My husband ( not his father) have bailed him out so many times costing us in the region is 20 thousand pounds plus plus . And he constantly promised us he would change and make better choices . We were even blackmail into giving his dealers money that he allegedly owed and promised to pay us back that hasnt happened My mental health took a major down fall, still has . He would call, text saying he had no food money, rent, fuel, ect ect . Making me feel such tremendous guilt. I am was a professional person working in the medical industry, I have seeked support from a drug services that supported families, unfortunately this wasn’ t helpful for me. However I understand it can be for others, maybe there a service in your area that could support you. GPS are totally useless!!!! they also just gave my son a number too and showed no interest in supporting him . My son nonlonger has interest in drug services support, ie he not ready for thier support , he tried them but found them not suitable for him .

The final straw for us , was financially we can no longer support him or should I say enable him. we are now pensioners, my son would take the last pound from me just so that he could get his next fix he didnt care if we had nothing left or if we would go hungry , this is when I realised that I just couldn’t help him anymore he doesn’t care but only for his drugs . My son is gone and he now has to find a way out of this drug hell he is in .

With regards to your son being hungry.. instead of giving him money I used to buy my son a weeks worth of food then I discovered that he never ate the food as I would find it rotten in his flat . Tell your son to go to a food bank if he hungry that’s what I did and give him the address of your nearest one . Heat and warmth well he has his flat , better cold there than in the streets . I have to remind myself that my son makes his own choices and I can’t influence that anymore as hes a grown man now . I will always love my son but I have to protect my own health and my marriage i have more years behind me than in front. I pray that my son see the light and gets well. but in the meantime,, I

recently had to block him from my life . I told him that I will alway love the beautiful boy I remember with out drugs and and until he returns, it is just too painful for me to watch my son ruin his life, it just far to painful . Good luck to you .

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