[desperatedad]

Hi Frankie,

I feel your pain and i really don’t know how you have managed to endure this torture for so long. mine has only been for a few months and i am ill with worry. I love my wife but i dont think i can take much more. Is there a particular reason why you cant leave or are there many?. Do you have family you can talk to?. Do his family know?. Unfortunately for me both my parents died suddenly at the beginning of the year so i have nobody and i don’t know who i can confide in.

My nightmare is only just beginning and i think i am heading for divorce, i am worried sick about my children and how this is going to ruin their lives.

i am really struggling to think straight at the moment. After all of this came out my wife eventually phoned the local drugs help line yesterday and has had an initial phone call today. I heard some of the conversation and she hasn’t been entirely honest with the truth but i felt better knowing this was maybe the start. We’ve talked to death about it over the last couple of days and she is saying all the right things but i know she is lying to me because she has still been trying to source drugs from other people. I am on night shift tonight and she told me not to worry as she would keep herself busy but i know she bought drugs earlier today. i did hear the counsellor say to her to try and cut down because you cant just turn it off so i am mindful to confront her at this stage.

I suspect she may also have had an affair or maybe still having an affair because she is still acting strange one minute and then all apologetic and loving the next. i’m sure she will be plotting something this week while i’m trying to sleep after night shifts. I can’t remember the last time i had a proper nights sleep.

Thankyou for listening and i hope you can somehow move forward.

[desperatedad]

Good evening Frankie,

Thankyou for taking the time to reply. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I hope one day you and your family can come though all of this. That’s what I am clinging onto at the moment as I think that all I have. Just when I thought my wife was at least trying I discover she bought drugs last night. I have tried to not let it affect me today while I try and work out what to do next. I’m sure she will be trying to source more over the next day or two. She promised me yesterday she will call the local helpline tomorrow so I hope she is true to her word. Deep down I know I am going to be disappointed though.

Can I ask what help you sought or have received so far? The only time I have seen her get upset and for it to register is when I talk about the concern I have for the safety of our children.

I’m mindful that if I go too hard on her this will make it worse but I don’t know what else to do. If she refuses tomorrow I feel like I have to act or this will never be resolved.

Thanks for listening

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