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I used to have them uncontrollable twitches as well…

The drug abuse was visible after I stopped the edgyness and twitching take a while to go after stopping.

Mine took 4 months to dissipate fully. I get the odd ones now and again

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10 months 2 weeks clean for me. Not a line not a key no nothing. No drugs.

I had to lose everything to make me stop my wife kids etc.

Had final hearing at court a few days back and got full access to my kids unsupervised after proving I’m clean.

Got a new partner who fully supports me and is aware of my past.

Yes it is possible. But when I used to use I hated myself. I hated the fact I used. Had been told (cgl ) numerous times beforehand. This time was different. I wasn’t letting it steal my life anymore or stop me from being me.

So yes you can stop you just have to want it that bad and let it mess your life up that much that you know there’s no going back.

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Alot of his behaviour sounds narcissistic actually.

He is tearing you apart I can see it in what you write.

He’s scared to live without you but also loves the drug hence why he keeps doing it. You need to get strong and be able to focus on yourself for a while.

He will choose the drug because it’s selfish it’s all typical cocaine addiction behaviour the disappearing for days… The lying… I bet who you confront him about it he turns it on you.

It’s all the same. You need to get strong and walk and I know it’s hard but it won’t change especially if he doesn’t want too.

This is from me I’m a cocaine addict who is clean and living a better life but it took mountains for me to get where I am.

What made me stop my wife left and o knew she was serious. I said cocaine will not take anything else from me. So now I stay clean and always will be for me and my children.

Here if you need any advice or have questions.

You are not at fault. Do not enable his behaviour and borrow him money or put up with it because it won’t get any better.

Sorry for being blunt.

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I’m off to bed but will reply tomorrow just browsing late will get back to you. Read some other threads about cocaine behaviour it will help

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If he’s gonna stop he had to face demons and be true to himself. Took me to lose absolutely everything to stop and I’m clean. My ex wife gave me chance after chance and that wasn’t enough for me to stop.

Your husband will love you but it’s not enough for him to stop. My only experience is hitting rock bottom and that was enough for me to say no more i don’t want this life anymore and I did it.

22 attempts to quit before this one and this one is successful. I’ve accepted to myself that I have to have a drug free life forever and that I will never go through what I went through ever again. It’s just one of them things but getting off it was the biggest mountain I climbed in my life.

I won’t even have a bet and won’t engage in anything that is addictive.

You have to make a choice. He won’t come off it nor will anyone till they are completely ready themselves…

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Now is the best time to stop reason being:-

I used to be triggered by my old environment where I used to live. Now am away I don’t get triggers. But it’s honestly the best time so you don’t create a habit in your new house.

Keep going and don’t get complacent aim for three weeks. Then five then ten..if you do ten you will be free it’s easy from there trust me

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Meditation is a great technique. Some of the guided meditations are brilliant.

Since you are doing that try adapting law of attraction into your life. This in turn helps you outlay a positive mindset. Instead of thinking of negatives constantly it trains your brain to think of positives.

Keep going you got this. And no you won’t be judged. What I learnt during recovery is if you slip don’t beat yourself up. I’m lucky enough to have not and have the mindset not too slip.

You need to remember it’s make or break. After you do 3-5 weeks it’s so much easier I’m living breathing proof I’ve done it myself.

Any advice you can message me I can give you so many techniques… What worked for me might not work for you but I can always help

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Or you can sign up to a local help centre.

Stick to the action plan they set you for 12 weeks and then they will pay for rehab for you for free?

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So you are at the stage where you know it’s an issue.

The problem you have is by doing it with him you have made it “acceptable” to do and he knows no different.

The debts start mounting up and the use increases. You need to address it now or it won’t get sorted but no offence it has gripped you.

One week off won’t be enough.

Routine (go bed on a set time wake up a set time)

Eat healthily (3 meals a day whether you are hungry or not)

Exercise (get out go on walks stay hydrated and eat l)

Cut alcohol for a few months its definitely the biggest trigger

Glad you’ve gone for help do these things and it will make stopping easier. Plenty of multi vitamins

You can do this. Does your partner want too though? If either of you doesn’t it’s gonna be a battle…

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Hi libertas,

Thanks for the reply I will never become complacent again that life is totally behind me. I’ve had to face demons and defeat them to get where I am.

I will never out myself through that 10 weeks of anxiety and withdraw ever again.

The constant overthinking and panic attacks and not being able to think clearly.

And yes I do have a challenge. I think it must be hard for her because she probably expected me to be sat somewhere in a ditch with no money off my face…

When in fact I’ve saved money got two cars, got new jobs and doing college and am saving for a mortgage (once my divorce goes through)

Must be hard for her to take I understand that bit.

Hopefully it does calm down though

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Yes that makes alot of sense. I’m growing tired of the behaviour though maybe like she did with me when I used…

It’s a constant drain and makes communication with my kids hard you know…

She did use the kids and still does but doesn’t realise the things she says and does… She gets the kids to lie to me which winds me up even more but I just don’t rise too it.

When I do pull her on her behaviour and say well this is wrong you shouldn’t be doing that she just either ignores m nor says I’m abusing her and I’m genuinely only stating facts…

I just hope she can sort her behaviour out because it is impacting the children…

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And congratulations to your son so proud for him x

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Hi Lindy, yes I mentioned counseling a few weeks back and got the

It’s you that needs help reply.

She shown up today with the kids eventually after me having to beg her.. she was meant to drop them today as a one off because my car’s broke… she changed her mind last minute then changed her mind again.

we all ended up enjoying it in the end but I know we’ve got mountains to climb to even consider being friends but I guess it’s a start.

Kjs thankyou for the advice I fully understand you. One step at a time

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Hope things are going better for you

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Yes I was diagnosed when I was 9 then rediagnosed as an adult.

In fact alot of articles state that roughly 70% of people with ADHD find comfort in recreational drugs mainly cocaine as it calms them instead of stimulate… It’s a weird one actually

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