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Funny you say that I have ADHD

Look up on Google ADHD and cocaine self medicating articles.

I stopped taking ritalin/methylphenidate when I stopped because that is also linked to cocaine just a heads up.

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Cigarettes I mean^

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Well he’s kicking one addiction for another I’m extremely careful in everything I do. When I quit drugs I quit gambling online. Won’t even have a bet on the grand national… I’m careful with everything I do.

Like you said maybe he has to have a secret but I hope you get to the bottom of it. My only addiction is smoking I need to kick this last habit

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And kklost that is incredible to hear it really is about the meetings and counseling.

I only do counseling now for my anxiety mainly and my everyday issues I suppose lol.

From when this post Started off It was about my wife etc… Genuinely now it’s about me and my kids I’m sort of relieved she didn’t forgive me because I’ve learnt a lesson of a lifetime.

Not gutted I feel I’ve dodged a bullet now in all fairness but I hold my hands up to my bad behaviour in the past

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I’m quite fortunate as no matter how drunk I get I can still say no. I’m a little different what stops my craving is eating… So if I’ve had a drink and that even crosses my mind I order food instead…

I’m known now for ordering pizzas when I’ve had a drink lol…

And I’ve not slipped once I’ve not had a key or a line or anything.

I don’t know what to suggest but always make sure he has a full belly when he has a drink and that’s all I can say where it relates to me

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Kklost sorry just seen your post congratulations to your hubby we started this journey together so happy

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Well maybe inside he’s crying out for help but is scared to admit it to you incase you do leave him…

Have the conversation about it. That if he’s not willing to stop that he will eventually lose everything. And you are willing to support him but support can only go so far… Least he got s chance to change now before you do start resenting him because you will eventually get strong enough when you’ve had enough xx

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This is truth but the man you love when he is using is not the man you fell in love with… It’s a bit harsh I suggest you try and get some help there is a charity that posts on here who give some great advice.

I can help you best I can with advice but the fact is unt he is willing to go through hell and bring himself off it when he’s ready this will continue. The behaviour won’t stop.

He has to be ready and want to do it. Nothing you say or empty threats will make him stop. If you say you are gon a leave you have to do it and make him prove he is clean.

My wife left me numerous times but I always knew she’d come back… The last time 9 months ago I knew she was serious and she hasn’t come back.

I’ve not done it for her this time though I did it for me which is a major factor and my children

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This is completely normal. The question I ask is:- has he become co dependent on you for his wants and needs? Do you let him get away with it time and time again?

If you do then yes he will continue doing it. I used to go out on Friday and come back on Sundays with no explanation to my ex wife. When she confronted me we argued but I’d blame her and make everything her fault… It’s what happens when you confront an addict.

I know it’s hard and it won’t get better but you have to consider is it worth putting up with the behaviour anymore? I’m all for making it work but until he stops and knows you are going to leave then he will change his ways.

When you are on cocaine it’s a blanket over your feelings to the people closest to you. You don’t care how they feel… You don’t care that you are hurting them. I didn’t realize till it was too late

I wouldn’t dream of exerting that behaviour to anyone ever again in all honesty

Cocaine is a selfish drug. You only take interest in conversations when it’s about that. You can’t balance the two and live a normal life that’s my take on it anyway.

I used to run too it when I was using over the slightest thing

“Oh my dogs shit in the house I need a line”

“I’ve had a bad day I need a line”

My tyres flat I need a line”

The circle has to be broken somewhere or you are gonna be used as a punch post “not literally but you get what I mean” for when he’s on his comedowns and it’s not fair

Ash I’m so happy for you. I bet life is much easier. My life has come together piece by piece and am much happier. Glad it worked out I really am

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Officially 9 months clean today…

What a journey I’ve been through. Zooming in on that 1 year clean thick and fast

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Look for Russell brand “freedom from our addictions” that’s a good read it puts alot of things into perspective.

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You can’t just quit drugs… I mean I did but I had to hit rock bottom lose my wife and get locked up and lose everything for me to change.

Drugs are selfish… Took me roughly 20 attempts to actually stop and I’m clean now.

You are in a horrible predicament but where does it stop. Where does the behaviour and the drug cycle break.

While he gets away with it he will continue doing it. It’s a hard one but you’re speaking to someone who knows.

I’ll hold my hands up I was a selfish piece of s*** when I took cocaine. Buy after 10 weeks of being off it was like I was reborn. Hope you can get it sorted here if you need anything

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Law of attraction helped me massively

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He’s ready for stopping but it won’t go till he kicks it fully it’s like a switch in your head that clicks.

8 and half months clean now no drugs no coke no weed no anything.

Everything improves when it does stop and it’s well worth it

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