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This was me back in March after 10 years of use.

Typical behaviour stuck in a cycle. If he wants to stop he needs to write a plan out.

Get active. To do this he needs to go a week without use. Plenty of fruit juice and multi vitamins.

The next 10 weeks of his life will be held his behaviour will be erratic. The depression gets worse and anxiety goes through the roof.

If he’s adamant about doing it you need to get him active and he needs to want to stop. If he has debts with dealers make him pay them but you pass the money over so he doesn’t pick anymore up.

It’s hard to do it really is but the cycle needs breaking.

If he can get to 14 days with no use it becomes so easy to do but in all honesty what your telling me he isn’t ready to stop yet so you need to make a decision. Only he can help himself no one can drag him out it’s all on him.

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You are welcome I always pop on here from time to time as it helped me stop. Seeing people’s story’s and relating to actions that I have done myself in the past and telling myself I will never put anyone through that again!

If you need any advice just post and I’ll reply when I can

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So glad to see he’s doing well. I’m reading my posts back when I was at day 14. I’m at day 105 now ???? and yes everything has changed my attitude. My sex drive. My ambition. My depression has gone and am happy.

Good luck with everything I’m really happy for you

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Go with your gut! He has used so great him like he has used and he needs to come clean about it and not lie because it makes it worse. Tell him if he admits it you will get through it but you need his complete honesty.

I’m at day 105 myself and not tempted in the slightest. I made my choice and my lifestyle good.

You need to bring this to am abrupt end before it spirals and it will do because he will think he can lie and you will believe him. Stop it before it starts

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Nope because part of stopping is realising and setting a notion in your brain that it’s wrong.

If he starts doing it he’s believing he isn’t doing anything wrong.

Look up “cocaine planned relapse” because that is what it is…

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Hi just a quick update.

I am day 105 I think I stopped counting now.

Everything is going really well now. Me and the ex wife don’t really argue now and I have the children on set days etc and she let’s me have them when I’m free if I call and ask.

Still seeing someone and she’s lovely and knows about everything.

Working 4 days a week and starting college in 2 weeks while working part time.

Hope everyone is well.

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Hey everyone sorry I’ve been inactive I lost my phone etc…

Sorry to hear he’s relapsed… you went through alot I remember you posting on my post. Well straight back to basics again stamp the law down before it gets out of hand.

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I’m on day 92 today and I’m doing really well.

I still dont get along with my ex wife but injustice speak to her mum now regarding the kids. Divorce is on the cards.

I haven’t had any slips and knowni wont ever go back.

I’m seeing someone else now but its still early days and we are taking things slow. I made her aware of my past and she knew me before anyway and has helped me through alot. All I can do now is look forward to my future but thankyou for asking.

Up until day like 70 things were hard. The anxiety in general was worse than ever.

Noe it’s like I’m back to me 8 years ago but alot more wiser. It’s amazing to be me and I mean that. Theres no anger or hate and no sadness anymore. I’m just living a really happy life finally

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Hi I’m on day 75 clean from cole. Not a key a line nothing. I lost everything and that’s what it took for me to stop. I’m much happier now as it was toxic in the end anyway. My addiction was triggered and enabled by my ex wife. Not just her fault I made that choice to shove it up my nose.

In the past year and half of our marriage the coke took me over. Paranoia. Abusive erratic behaviour mentally. I wore her down. Made her feel like she wasnt good enough and put her down. All she wanted to do was help me because she loved me and I see that now but it’s too late.

My point is I would of never changed if she didnt do what she did. I cant ever return to her even if I wanted too as it could trigger in my head that way of life again.

Cocaine makes people exert alot of erratic and impulsive behaviours and also anger. I’ve just been on the biggest withdraw of my life but luckily brain feels clear and has returned to what I believe full functionality or near full .

When I sit and examine my behaviour what it was like i guess she could call me a narcissist as that was the behaviours I displayed. Something that I have to live with as that is not me st all.

I’d suggest cutting contact till he proves he is clean. If you need to get police involved do it. They will help you as you are protecting your children.

Mesaage kel1 on here she is excellent with stuff like this and the advice she given me helped me significantly to get clean

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I dont know what to say. I mean alot of his behaviours exhibited mine but I would never of got my ex wife to join in. Sounds alot like narcissism to me that. Control issues. I dunno what to say even I’m flabbergasted.

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Still on straight and narrow. Lifes getting good again and I’m really happy. Day 67 today

Pic update

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I went out for an hour on saturday but It was strictly an hour then went to a cousins house (safe zone) (drug free)

I went out today on a date had a nice day in blackpool went for something to eat. I’m genuinely really really happy and becoming content on my own.

I’ve promised myself I will learn to love myself again and that’s what am doing. Not been this happy in a very very long time. I feel like my marriage was over years back when I think about it rationally and it’s the best choice we made. I dont feel attraction to her and I dont even feel anything when I look at her I just feel like eww what was I doing I guess which is quite sad. And I’m actually starting to find that happiness finally.

I felt a bit of past guilt today because I felt I was having fun but I didnt have kids with me but I suppose that will just take getting used too it’s still early days!

The meal idea is perfect It may get him to adapt to going out again. And also do you both some good you should both go!!

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I have. He said once I’ve done 6 months the are going to refer my to a psychiatrist. If they refer me now the referral will come back because I’ve not been abstained long enough.

And kklost no definitely not I cant afford to slip! Theres no room for error I’ve made a life choice. It also helps that people said I will never do it so am motivated to prove everyone wrong.

When I see my kids it reminds me why I’m doing it and also gives me strength to continue doing it for myself and them

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And well done to your husband his behaviour should be still fixing itself but It should be miles better lol. Be proud of him !!

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The cravings stopped for me after 3 weeks. My anxiety went through the roof though.

My behaviour strops Stopped like a week ago they was getting better anyway. What I mean is them little strips over something little. I had a little outburst feeling sorry for myself. (Not with her just with a friend) and since that I’ve been calm no outbursts and no anger or resent towards anyone.

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