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Ahhh speak to my ex wife she will help you change your mind shes good at doing the being cold stuff ????
I’m going to give you the brutal truth. You cant convince him. No matter what you say or do hes gonna do it. Not until he sees himself hes got a problem. And even that can take years to then get off. Its downhill from here. You need to make hom realise that he might lose you if he doesn’t get help.
Sounds like hes been hammering it. Paranoia is hard to get rid off trust me I know myself. Many a time I used to think police were coming through my door. Hope he can get the help he needs. I’m on day 22 since stopping. I’m doing a CBT course to help me with my behaviours and also retrain my brain to think logically again. He needs to stop because if he continues it could turn permanent
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Yeah I’ve been doing na meetings on zoom aswell. Really helpful
She wants it on paper that I’m gonna have kids on certain days etc… I also feel like it’s a chance to sort divorce aswell going mediation which it is…
Yeah I just need to stop trying te her I’ve changed. I mean she got upset the other day and said she will always care for me. Personally I’m tryna resign myself to the fact that it’s done. From tomorrow I will go no contact till back end of the week when we can arrange for the kids etc.
Moving forward I do think no contact might be best. I guess what’s hard for me is I get bored at night. It’s more boredom why I talk to her I guess… but maybe cutting contact might help me
KK so happy for you but its gonna be hard work. After 6-10 weeks it apparently is really easy then he just needs to have strength to say no if anyone offers him any. I myself am gonna be rock solid with that never going back. I wanna thank yous aswell because yous have helped me identify my old behaviours and I never will return to that monster I was
Sell she says I dont want anyone else I just dont want you… kinda hard to take but I need to accept it it to be fair I really do ????♂️
The fact that I have lost who I thought was my life partner. She doesn’t want me anymore no 2 ways about it. But I know she loves old me but I haven’t been that guy in years shes probably forgot who that guy is. My behaviour is calming down alot but I’ve still got weeks on the chart of impulsive behaviour it can last for 6 weeks apparently.
And the fact my kids are getting older and i want a better life for them. Also that i hated myself everytime i sniffed i hated rlthw fact i did it. I hated the life I was living. I hated that I lost jobs over it. I hated turning into an absolute monster when in fact I’m the most caring and loving person you would probably meet.
This sounds daft my ex is a pride person she cares what people think like her family and work and everyone. I just really think her being there isnt helping me move on but she won’t let me have kids till mediation has been. Wish I could just forgot and I will eventually get to a point maybe in a few weeks I’ll switch off and that’s when I really wont care. I know she prob will start caring but it will be too late then I will have switched off. Not being mean but once am cold am cold I switched off from all my exs after 2 to 3 months and just never spoke to them again.
I will have too speak to her for my kids but yeah. I will just sit back and laugh then. Wish I was at this point now in my head but I know I’ve tried everything I can xx
Si today has been a hard day for me. I’m on day 19. Not in terms of cravings thats been so easy. But we was in hotel with the kids and my ex was messaging someone else wmand said something like just brought the kids to see Daz ????. Instead of getting angry I do want to see my kids but it wound me up so I asked if she could leave. I di want to to see my kids but I think whilst she is here it’s not good.
I was a just angry but didnt want an arguement to erupt in front of the kids..
My point is no wonder she doesn’t want to try while messaging other people. I cant stop her or influence what she does but don’t drag me down while I’m trying. Doing my best here. At least I didnt say horrible things like i used to and i just politely said are you okay to go.
I’ve got to think of my feelings now aswell. What winds me up is years ago when I left her I come back to work things out for her years ago when I was clean I chose her. Just a kick in the teeth for me and I think I’m struggling to move on while shes sat around. I dislike who shes turned into but I guess I created this monster…
Well dont. It’s his actions! I’m not telling you what to do because i dont want to interfere. I was there 2 years ago on 40mg of citalopram a day and sniffing aswell. Yeah it doesn’t go well together. And you might be surprised actually. He might go downhill at first but he will realise what hes lost. I dont know the guy he might preach to you hes got nothing. What’s gonna make him change though… I really dont know so cant comment. All i know is am here for you if you need advice
No I get where you are coming from. His is what my ex wife says. She says she will never understand and that’s why she cant ever forgive me. That’s her choice and she thinks going support groups wont help her as she will just judge etc.
I recommend if you are willing to support him go to support groups. There is also helplines you can phone.
Dont batter yourself for not finding out quicker. These are his actions and he needs to face them.
If hes buying in half a gram and grams. Then it’s still alot I guess. Any use is alot because it just gets worse anyway…
Basically you can get half a tenth 0.8 for 50 or a teenth for 90 1.7 grams so yeah its alot. That’s what I was on a day before I just stopped. I’m sat her currently with my little boy next to me buzzing because I’m doing it for me and my kids. Its gonna be hard stopping that amount I dont know how I’ve done it but I have ????????
Doctore dont refer to drug service they give you a number to ring usually. Well they do here and you have to refer yourself